by Katrissa Singer

Created on: January 04, 2007   Last Updated: September 09, 2011

My (personally tested and widely used) solution for attracting members of the opposite (and same!) sex can be summarized in the following steps.

Step One: Reconnaissance.
Look at the person carefully, note what stands out. What are they wearing? What do the clothes tell you? (Interpreting one's choice of clothes might provide valuable insight not only into their budget, but also relationship status, intentions and personality.) If there were prior conversations, have they mentioned any of their hobbies/interests? If you are set on meeting a complete stranger, explore the venue where you are planning to initiate an encounter. Knowing about dress code, public in attendance and things to order will save you a lot of time and nerves afterwards.

Step Two: Evaluate Your Position.
Are you a friend? An ex of an ex? A complete stranger? In each case, your approach will be different. I have to tell you this, though: Do not, as much as you may be tempted to, discuss mutual acquaintances with the person you are trying to develop an "understanding" with. There is plenty of room for unpleasant misunderstandings when people are talked about behind their backs.

Step Three: Dress to impress.
This doesn't necessarily mean dressing up. This is where Step One comes into play. Dress to mirror the target person's appearance (or venue's dress code). Also, make sure you feel comfortable and confident in the outfit you are wearing. Save those butterflies in the stomach till the time something actually happens. Make sure you pack gum (both guys and gals, believe me, fresh breath counts a lot), necessary cosmetic tools (nail clipper and comb for gentlemen, and lip gloss and whatever else it is they feel they need for ladies.)

Step Four: Approach.
Remember: Pick up lines are time bombs waiting to go off and tear your budding relationship apart. Unless you are counting on humor to break the ice. However the ice might break right under you. (author coughs out a sarcastic laugh) My personal favorite approach is printing out an article or a flyer with an event the object of my seduction would be interested in and coming up to him/her saying this: "I was surfing the Internet the other day and the moment I saw this I instantly thought about you, aren't you interested in this stuff?" (Do not actually admit you were surfing the Internet IN ORDER to approach them, not the other way around.) This little trick helps convey some pretty important messages. One: it indicates you're interested in similar

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