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The people belonging to West have a severe form of misunderstanding as regards the word "Arranged Marriages". According to them, if two cousins or even unknown people of different gender are knotted together in marriage forcefully, largely by their parents, it's an arranged marriage, whereas, in case of "Love Marriage", when you "fall in love with a guy" and hang out with him and after both thoroughly understand each other, they walk the aisle and are pronounced as husband and wife.
Let me give you people a clear idea, being myself part of the culture where it is prevalent ubiquitously, what it actually is in arranged marriage. Here, the parents usually search for the suitable better half and after the consent of both sides, the knot is tied. It is not as most of the people conceive. As parents have more experience than a boy or a girl of late teens or perhaps, early tweens, so whatever they decide is in a good faith and in the best interest of their child and the whole family in general.

Regarding the people who wish to be struck by a cupid every now and then and they don't see anything, even in their dreams, but the red-heart-shaped balloons. I once read a quote and I totally agree with the person who said that. It goes like this: "Love is nothing but a misunderstanding between two fools". No offence but, this is the gist of everything encompassed by love may it be love affair, love marriages or whatever.
Ok, just think that you're married either way. Imagine your life after marriage, say 10 years later. A couple married in love or in an arranged manner, both will lead more or less the same sort of life. Both will have children and the problems associated with them that were born with them. Their nourishment, grooming, education, mentoring, careers.it includes everything. On the other, for an extended family, you need to cater for the ever rising economic pressure, bills, taxes, house budget. So, no matter how you're married, at the end of the day only the word "Marriage" is left. The words "Arranged" or "Love" evanesce away.
The life after marriage does sound horrifying but it becomes a hell, literally, in case of a love marriage. The couples expect more from their spouse because of the promises they made with each other in their love life, before marriage. After they're married, they can't fulfill their respective promises due to the factors cited above which naturally result in lost confidence and here, arranged marriage has an upper hand. They don't make baseless promises, hence no non-compliance. Result: A peaceful life afterwards.
And people claim that arranged marriages usually do not last that long. Well, I'll say the same for love marriages. I've seen arranged marriages last for the whole lifetime with full loyalty and sense of belonging and I've also seen love marriages break within the month of the formal processions of the marriage itself. At the end, I'd like to inform you that the couples are made in heaven and it is in no way we can change that. If God has not made your beloved for you, it is indeed impossible for both of you to get along. The best thing to do is to concentrate on ones career and leave this matter in the hands of Almighty, who will never do wrong to any living soul.

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