by Linda James

Created on: July 13, 2008

Do nice guys finish last? Not at all!

The bad boy image is so appealing to women. Women like the taboo of what goes along with dating that type of man. Those men have a appealing, their walk turns you on, their voices ring down inside of your most private parts and your heart skips a beat at the sound. When you see them, you lick your lips and are drawn to them. But wait you have the nice guy at home. You know the guy that is reliable, faithful, honest, dedicated and totally in love with you. Yeah that's the one. But when you size up the nice to the forbidden guy, you know the one that you can't bring home without the questions and the disapproving looks. The nice guy just doesn't match up. He looks dull and boring and unappealing. But is he really or are you not seeing or thinking straight? So what do you do, you dump the nice guy and go for the one that everything in your mind screams is all wrong. But you imagine the sex with the forbidden one and the prestige that you would feel from being with him and you toss caution to the wind and you go for him. You step out on that shaky limb and you jump right into the arms of Mr. Wrong, leaving Mr. Right heartbroken and alone. And for the moment it feels so right. He is sexy, funny, smart, alluring, strong and you miss all the wrong things that make up his character. You miss the fact that he lies, cheats, steals, yells, uses people and is sometime verbally abusive or worst.

And every time you lay in the bed at night and cry because you don't know where he is or who he is with, the nice guys runs through your mind. You remember the times that he sent you flowers because he thought of you or you remember the nights he called because he wanted your voice to be the last one he heard before he closed his eyes. Or the time you just sat silently holding hands because he just liked being near you. And you long for him. You wondered what he was doing and who he was with and you instantly hate that imaginary woman who took your man. But in all reality, she didn't take him, you gave him away. And for some reason you have no idea why you did that. And then you remember the bad boy that you had to have. And you sigh because you realize that you messed up.

So in saying all of this, I don't believe that the nice guys finish last. I believe that it takes us as women a while to understand what is important. That we are emotional creatures by design and we tend to not see what is right in front of us. We tend to think we need that extra excitement in life. But we learn through tears, heartbreak, sorrow and being alone, that what we want is stabilty and true love. We find what we need and what we want may not always be the same thing. And sometimes we need to look a little more carefully before we leap.

Nice guys don't finish last because in the end they always win. The reality of it is that when it comes down to it being faith, dependable, reliable and trustworthy is sexy as hell. Having that one person to call your own or that one person to be by your side when the mortgage is due or the kids are sick or you loose a love one is priceless and special. Learning to appreciate that being the nice guy is what is a true turn on because in the end that is what you need.

In the end, the nice guy finishes first because he wins the true love and respect of your heart. So hang in there nice guy your day is coming and you will be the most wanted man on earth. Trust me I know I have been on both sides of the fence and I need that nice guy.

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