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I have suffered from two miscarriages and they were both very different from each other, even the difference between the physcial side effected the emotional side.

My first miscarriage was when I was 17, I had just got married to my husband, the timing wasn't great but we were preparing to move house in order to give our child the best start in life, we intended to move out from my husbands parents and rent our own place.

At this point I foolishly assumed when you get pregnant, you will have a baby. I had no idea how common miscarriage was. Then about a month after my positive pregnancy test, I would have been just 8 weeks I started to bleed. It was a painless process, not big clots to speak of. The pregnancy just passed, it was just over. I hadn't really thought about it too much, naturally I was upset but I just coped with it and threw myself into other things.

My second miscarriage started with some light bleeding for a few days. Of course after my previous miscarriage I assumed it would just be a pain free period type thing, as soon as I started bleeding I had resigned myself to the idea of a miscarriage. This time I was almost 11 weeks, within sight of the 12 week safety net.

I had gone to bed and experienced these truly awful pains, absolute agony! Now after having two successful pregnancies and births I can say these pains I have during my second miscarriage were as bad as labour. I went on to pass huge tennis ball sized clots and I was in so much pain I was given morphine.

This miscarriage completely slaughtered me emotionally. I was a wreck. I felt a complete failure like it was my fault entirely. I didnt help that I had fallen pregnant about the same time I had been raped and I had also been made redundant from my job. I think I also thought at the time that the stress of these had directly contributed to my miscarriage. I couldnt sleep afterwards for months and lost loads of weight. Regardless of these we started trying again straight away and fell pregnant again after 7 months.

Along with this other signs were that my boobs that were very tender straight after my postive test weren't sore at all, and my morning sickness disappeared. All the signs that I was experiencing a healthy normal early pregnancy disappeared, and not long after the bleeding started.

Not that this will apply to everyone but it was what happened in my instance. When pregnant with my son and daughter my morning sickness was constant and overpowering much worse than with my 'failed' pregnancies. The same applies with the sore breasts and cravings.

In my successful pregnancies I gave up caffiene and this felt like I was actively doing something to be more healthy and I think it lifted my mood although I am not sure it really made much difference.

I know I wrote this on my previous article on miscarriage but don't lose hope. I would assume anyone reading this has recently miscarried or concerned that they are currently. I had two miscarriage and then two successful pregnancies. I had early bleeding around 7 weeks with both of my children and I went on to have perefectly normal pregnancies.

I think hope helps so much when trying to concieve, if it isnt your month try and relax and pamper yourself and get back on the horse! It will be your turn you will get your bundle of joy!

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