by Laundry Queen

Created on: July 10, 2008

I was hoping to walk in the middle on this debate, because life is not always black and white. A whole lot of gray is sitting out there to be experienced. For in my mind, it is the quality of friends that is important and not the quantity of friends. Count the moments with those friends. Fill those moments with quality friends and you will have a life to look back on and smile at. A place where your only regret may be turning down a tattoo or parachuting out of a plane. Both of which would have provided you with great memories and stories to recant.

You may live your life for many years, with only 1 or 2 close friends and never feel that you lacked. Or that you missed out on something. Those few friends may have the strength, love and friendship that your soul needs to blossom. Keeping your friendship gas tank full at every moment. The friend you call when the worst things happen. The ones you celebrate with when the best things happen. They know your intimate details. They know what upsets you and what makes you walk taller. Such peace comes from this type of friendship.

Then again, your spirit could be hungry for more then what a couple friends can provide. Which has you constantly pulling new friends into your circle. Luckily, your friends are of the same nature if they were pulled by you in the first place. One friend may know an intimate secret and the next may only know your drinking habits. One may bring you in touch with your spiritual side and take you to bible studies. The other is going to pull you into an adult only store. All of them, will help you live life to the fullest and enjoy the experiences you need to feel fullfilled.

We all gravitate to the ones we need. And a few we don't, but we learn from each contact we make. Proving that all brief encounters can leave a lasting impression. Even when a friendship goes wrong, we should rejoice in the chance that let us experience it. For without the chance, we would never be able to reach and enjoy the quality friendships that await us.

I guess when it all comes down to it, it is the having of friends that we all should focus on. The friend that we will let wake us up in the middle of the night and leave the house in our pajamas, because they called. The friend that we will laugh with and hopefully cry less with. The rest is just a number meant for accounting. If you always search for quality in your friendships, you will lose count of your friends and spend more time counting the moments that they made your life better. Whether there are 2 or 100.

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