by Linda James

Created on: July 09, 2008   Last Updated: April 08, 2009

When you cheat you break the bond of trust and trust is not something you easily get back. I never understood people that cheated. I always felt like if you were not happy move on. Why hurt the person more. Why create lies and deceit when it is not necessary. How can you profess to care about someone when you openly hurt them? Oh you can lie to yourself and say that it is not them but ultimately they pay the price as well as you do.

You lay your head next to them and then sneak and hide behind their backs. You smile in their face and know that you are not honest. If they are not what you want and need then move on. If they are what you want then why lie. You have to take a look at who you are and what you want and what you want in a partner. But first you have to be honest with yourself.

There are many people that join sex websites and dating websites when they know that they have someone at home. They give no thought to the other persons feelings or needs, just their own. They want the best of both worlds. You want to keep what you have at home and you still want more. No one gets 100% in any relationship but if you have 80% why not be happy with that, but you try for that 20%. And then when you get it and you loose the 80% that you have you can't figure out what happened. You happened, you were never satisfied. You kept trying your luck until you lost. You gambled with the heart and love of another without the thought of what you may be doing to them. And when you get caught you try to rationalize why you did something. But the truth of the matter is that you can't rationalize it. The truth is you care only about yourself, you are selfish and self-centered and you don't consider what harm you are doing to others. Until it's too late. It takes more work to lie and hide and deceive than to be true and faithful. Maybe you should put that much effort into making your relationship work.

By saying this I say no, a relationship with a cheater does not work because a cheater is not happy with themselves. And until they are happy with themselves, they can't be happy with anyone else and they don't realize that what they get isn't worth what they may stand to lose. Unfortunately they don't realize that what they may loose is precious and that they may not be able to get it back.

So before you cheat or if you are cheating, think about this...is what you will get out of that relationship is worth more than what you will lose?

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