by Elizabeth Tay

Created on: July 09, 2008   Last Updated: December 09, 2008

As much as I hate to admit. There is no such thing as to love with a heart. Love is a feeling of infatuation controlled by the mind which will fade off in about 2 years or 3 years time.We think we cannot control it, but in fact it is possible.

It is just a feeling, an obsession, that starts off with ourselves. We start with the admiration, then imagination creeps in, we start to imagine touching, holding or kissing the other person.Then the obsession may grow into an addiction. Love is an addiction just like taking drugs.We crave so much to see the other person but actually what is supposedly the "love" is actually starts off with ourselves. We allow wild thoughts to flood our minds because they seem so pleasant and beautiful.

Most of the times, we want something that we cannot have. The bittersweet feeling is also another addiction that we subconsciously like without knowing.

Love is just a beautiful word.

Love always make us painful if we really put our hearts and soul into it. It is heartbreak. People always take you for granted. The pursuit for true love is meaningless. It is deceit. All those honeyed words are just a pack of lies. They are so true and the truth is so raw.

When you love somebody you want to give him your all, you are even willing to sacrifice your own happiness. IN the end there is not even a thank you. Love is when you are willing to give and not expect any thing in return. You give in to the other person's moodiness, big ego and think of ways just so that he will be happy. When you are gone, they will try means to get you back. When you love them back, they torture your heart till it bleeds. They toss and turn your heart up in the air like a toy. They just don't care. It is just a waste of time and energy. THe worst kind of investment. What does it matter what love is all about

The real true love are those who are willing to sacrifice for each other no matter what happens.Sometimes we be so obssessed that we are willing to make sacrifices. The thing is that how long will it last? When you see his very private habits like digging nose, getting rid of food in between his teeth and spitting, do you want to love him all the same?

Actually we can just fall in love with just about anyone if we want to beacause it is our mind who control it all. But like an addiction, one can't shake off the feeling all at once. It is more of a habit thing sometimes. We need time to adjust ourselves.Sometimes we are so used to thinking of the person, the best way is to find a substitute, an alternative to put all your love on.

Love is an energy, and an energy cannot be destroyed so it will need to be converted to something else.Fall in love with an idol or another person(it is better if your feelings are reciprocated or else it will mean another heart break).

The male and female thinking process about love is very different. Sometimes a woman do know what a man wants but she often puts in her own feelings, too much emotion and be dissapointed. Men tend to be more straightforward although not all.

Most of the time after the initial 2 to 3 years, the novelty wears off, love "dies", but we stay on because we actually feel a sense of responsibility. You may "refresh" memories by thinking back or looking/ smelling/hearing something that so that you can be brought back to the happy moments you two shared.

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