by The Schmooze

Created on: July 08, 2008

The first law of magnetism is all too familiar like poles repel and unlike (opposite) poles attract. They say every rule has an exception and for this law of magnetism, dating is the exception. In the dating world, like attracts like and opposites repel. How do I know? This is my story

I was a lonely college-going guy. All my pals were dating. To compound my loneliness, my friends made a point of rubbing it in. I couldn't take it any more. The humiliation got the better of me. I had to get myself a girl to shut them up.

I spotted her in college. My dream girl; tall, fleshy and (ok, let us not get carried away here!) Like a cheetah stalking a gazelle, I waited for the right moment. Then I approached her. I honestly can't remember what I mumbled when I finally got the courage to say something. It must have been silly because she reciprocated with a wry smile. Not one to give up easily, I continued my pursuit. Before long, we were dating.

She loved the outdoors. She certainly fit the label Party Animal.' I, on the other hand, was quite content to play video games with my friends at home. She had no qualms about drinking her self silly. I found (and still find) the taste of beer disgusting. She loved shopping. I hated it. (I still remember those countless hours of window shopping, only to go back home without having bought a thing. Damn!)

I loved sports. She had no inkling as to who Kobe Bryant was, and she didn't give a hoot. I always looked forward to Sunday morning the Church service. She preferred to nurse her hangovers on the same Sunday mornings.

No one really believed we were dating. We spent too little time together. And boy, were they good times! At least on my part!

Most times, our conversation centered on music, the movies, career and writing; the four pillars that held us together. As far as the other things went, I was willing to make sacrifice. I begrudgingly took her to the movies, the club, shopping malls and even hired her a cab home when she was inebriated. As Michael Bolton put it, "When a man loves a woman"

My friends told me that the relationship was headed nowhere that we just had too little in common. Come to think of it, they were right. Though at that time, I dismissed them as being jealous.

After a while, I couldn't take it any more. How come she never accompanied me to watch my favourite spots? Why did she never accept my invitation to attend a Sunday Church service? She never offered to find out what a typical day was like for me.

Then I reflected on the relationship. We were stagnated. We weren't building each other up; if anything, we were bogging each other down. It had to end. And it did. It was then that I learnt that opposites never attract!

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