I'm sure that everyone wants to know how to deal with the after effects of cheating. Well this all depends on if your the cheater or the cheatee. In my situation I was the one that was being cheated on, I'll call myself the cheatee.

The after effects were very difficult, there was a time that I thought ending it all would be the right thing to do. I wanted to take my pills, and put an end to the pain. I laid in bed at night, by myself and wonder what I did wrong. Will I ever find the perfect person for me, since I thought I already did. Sadness, Depression, Lack of self asteem, feeling sorry for yourself. These are all after effects of cheating. This article will explain how I dealt with some of them and still trying to deal the the rest.

Sadness, this effect is a tough one to beat. It has been comming back on a regular basis. I think that I have it beat and then it shows back up. I believe the best thing to do is to go and have fun. Try keeping yourself busy, surround yourself with friends and family. This will help take your mind off your problems. Actually that is probably the best thing to do with all the effects listed. Its going to take time, they say time heals all wounds.

The worst after effect of being cheated on is the lack of, or loss of self asteem. I always seem to get into a rut. What I mean by this is that as soon as I get a glimmer of hope, I have it torn away from me. It seems that I can't catch a break and this makes me beleive that the problem is me. I have to change somehow. Is there someone out there for me? What will I do without the one that I love? How can I make myself a better person? These are all questions that run through my head every night. Its been a few months since my wife and I have separated. These thoughts and feelings are still with me.

I'm not sure when I will be ready to date again. I know right now, I dont feel ready. I would like to meet a special lady and become her friend first. I believe that is the key to most relationships. You have to be friends. I thought that I was that with my wife, and still am to some extent. As, to coping with the feelings after your cheated on, Im not sure what path or solution your going to find, but its not an easy task. Remember there are people on the net, in your neighborhood, your family that will help you through all the tough times that are ahead. Keep your head up and keep moving forward is the best advice that I can give. Im still trying to get through this myself.

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