by Erica Kelin

Created on: July 06, 2008   Last Updated: October 31, 2010

"Would you like a bouquet that is biedermeier, cascade, classic bouquet, composite, crescent, nosegays, oasis, pomander, posies, presentation, or taped and wired?" asked the florist.

"Excuse me?" I replied.

I was sure she had just asked a question about my wedding bouquet, but I didn't quite understand the words she had said. Was I supposed to give her an answer? Was I supposed to understand what she was saying, let alone, know how to answer her? I was beginning to get overwhelmed. I looked at my friend that was with me and signaled that it was time to go. After going over a few more basics with the florist we scheduled our next meeting where some decisions would be made. I was sent home with a booklet of information on flowers.

I went into my meeting with the florist not knowing a thing about flowers. Who knew there were so many different names for flowers and so many different types? I know about roses and daisies, but that wasn't going to get me too far. I didn't really have an idea of what I wanted for my bouquet or for the bridesmaids. I was hoping the florist would just give me an idea of something that I would like. I sometimes get overwhelmed by all the choices. Being indecisive is never good. When it comes to wedding planning, it is the worst character trait. There are so many different decisions that need to be decided and so many choices that need to be chosen. Well, the florist didn't really help. I think she made things worse. It wasn't her fault. How was I supposed to know she was expecting me to know what I want?

Before going back to the florist, I did my homework. I went through different types of flowers and their colors. I thought about the colors that I might like and what would match the bridesmaid dresses. I worked backwards, eliminating what I didn't want and looked at what was left. As long as I had the basics, the florist could fill in the blanks. Once I had narrowed down what I wanted, I was not close to done. I had to make sure that before meeting with the florist I had all the information I needed to give her. This was not limited to the flowers and colors.

1) Make sure you have your location booked. Know the time and place to make sure this will work for the florist
2) Decide what kind of ceremony you are going to be having. This will effect the type and number of flowers you may have
3) Know your budget
4) Make a list of people and places that will need flowers:
a. Bridal bouquet
b. Boutonnieres for the groom, groomsmen, and dads
c. Maid of honor and bridesmaid bouquets
d. Corsage for moms and grandmas
e. What you want for the ceremony- altar, aisle, flower girl, etc
f. Centerpieces
g. Decoration for the cake, present table, guest book, etc

Once you know this and you have an idea of what flowers you might want, you are headed in the right direction! You will be much more prepared than I was. When meeting with the florist, keep in mind your preference. If you want your wedding to be a small and intimate celebration, using a big florist company might not be the way to go. You might want a family owned and run business. Your flowers should be a reflection of you and your taste, to help add to this special day.

So remember, before meeting with the florist, do a little research and come prepared. Don't worry, you don't need to know everything. It does come into place over time and discussion, but do a little homework beforehand and make sure you are happy with your decision for the beautiful flowers that will help add to this special day!

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