by Marie Frabutt

Created on: July 05, 2008   Last Updated: July 07, 2008

What Others See In Us

Have you ever wondered what motivates another person to call others names? Why do we point a finger at others, pointing out their faults and weakness? What benefit does the person doing the name calling or the finger pointing get out of it? Is there really something lacking in the person being called the name? Or is it a reflection of the person doing the name calling?

If there is something lacking in the person that is being called a name, how many do you think will listen to the person doing the name calling and that if it's for something other than meanness? Could we all not find a better way to tell the person what we see lacking in them?

But better yet, if we are seeing something lacking in others, maybe we should step back and look within our self to see if that same thing is lacking within us. We spend many years teaching our children not to point out the faults of others. Then we do the same things we tell them not to do.

Friends of mine are fond of quoting things and have said, over and over, "When we point one finger at another person there are three fingers pointing back at us." Try it; see if this is not true, we teach others by example. Just like with name calling, be careful it just might be a reflection of ones self.

What sort of example are we setting when we find fault with others. Even I am guilty of this. But spirit has a way of reminding me all too often, that I am by no means perfect and there for should worry about how others see me and not how I see others.

One of the best examples I have every heard was when a dear friend of mine, The Quail, related to a chat room full of people:

He was telling of how he was adopted at birth by a wonderful Native American Medicine women from the North country. From the time he was a small child he knew he was different from all the people and children of the village. Not just because he did not look like those around him but due to the fact he was born with all of his gifts fully blown and working.

In his story he was teaching about how his loving mother taught him a lesson about looking inward from an incident while he and the other children of the village were on a nature walk with Billy Two Feathers and Grandfather Bear, the teachers of nature. Billy Two Feathers and Grandfather Bear decided to take a break while on there nature walk on the mountain; this would give the children a rest as the day was very warm.

The Quail had been watching a boy who was always staring daggers and making

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