by Scott Thayer

Created on: July 04, 2008   Last Updated: October 31, 2008

I can truly say, hat yes - there is life after bring cheated on. I found out my had been cheating on me about 5 weeks ago, after being married for a wonderful years.

We had always struggled, every step we to - was a struggle just to survive - I am disabled, and cannot work, so I was the stay-at-home dad and did as much I could to keep the house going, and to take care of our two children.

About a month ago, my ex brought up the though of getting a housemate to move in, and help out with the rent - I though that was a great idea, and just be coincidence, or I though - my wife already someone in mind LOL - her new boyfriend.

I was not revealed to me until his first night here that she had been seeing him on he side for the past 4 months - and that basically my job as a husband is over, and he is taking over - she asked if I would stay in the home for emotional support for her, and to be their for the kids - I agreed, but only so I could be their with the kids. And believe me - things were VERY difficult that first week, my wife all of a sudden started doing things that she NEVER did with me - and I will tell you, I was extremely jealous - and still am about the fact, that they can go out and enjoy themselves without the kids, where when we were together we never got that chance, because we always the kids.

I have a small network of people that I can talk to about the whole thing - although none of them think I should be in the home, they keep telling me I should fight for the kids, and just leave - but I can' do that - I don't have a job, can't work, - no way I can even support myself, how would I also be able to support two kids? Besides, not about a month down he road, I am liking it here.

The one and only thing that is keeping me here, is realizing what happened in out relationship to get it that point, and that was communication - that broke down several years ago, although we would talk, and enjoying being with each other, it was more of a friendship type thing than anything else - and the communication was down at the friendship level, not at the level of two people that were truly in love with each other.

Looking at the new relationship my wife has with this new person, I am seeing her happy every day, I am happy every day - which just did not happen when we were together. I get along great with the new person my wife is with - if we had a true husband/wife relationship how could I be OK with the person my cheated on me with? - definitely made me sit back and think about life, and our relationship that we though we both had.

I hold nothing against my wife, she hold nothings me, and I still lover deeply, and have forgiven her for what she did - although I still living in the same house, I am here as a friend, and a father to the kids and nothing else, and I have moved on, and am living life as a single person at his point, getting to know some people, making new friends, and starting life over.

I know this person will be a great husband some day, great step-dad to the kids, and great for he family as a whole - and I planning on being a part of that for as long as possible, although this is a unique situation with he feeling towards each other - this situation is allowing me to be their for my kids - in the same house, but at the same time giving me all the freedom I want to do whatever I want, without having the responsibilities of a husband - I just have the responsibilities of being a dad.

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