by Barbara Kasey Smith

Created on: July 01, 2008

The bond between a Mother and her son is something special. Now, don't take me wrong, I love both of my children as much as I can but each love comes in a different package. A girls love drifts as she starts to mature into her teen years. She is no longer interested in the Mother daughter chit-chat that she once was. She wants to constantly be with her friends and could care less if she is ever with Mother. Now, my son was totally different from the day he came home from the hospital. He had a strong need for his Mother in every sense of the way. He loved for me to cuddle him, rock him, and talk with him as he listened intently to me. As a young baby boy, he always kept in close contact with his Mother and wanted to be in my presence as much as possible. He never appeared to get tired of my company and he always enjoyed the games we played and enjoyed going with me everywhere.

As the years rolled by, he matured to a teenager and you would have thought he would have preferred to be with teenagers his age but he still enjoyed being with me. He had his "girlfriends and football friends," but I do believe, Mother was his best friend. He loved to go with me to the malls and out to a fine restaurant to eat. He was never ashamed to be seen with me around his friends. Now, my daughter was totally different, she didn't want to be seen with her parents. We knew this and we respected her wishes. She loved us and we loved her but this was part of "her friends" fetish ways. We would all get a real good laugh out of it because she loved slurpee's and I would have to go get it for her. She didn't want anyone to think she was still into slurpee's. Teenagers have the biggest hang-ups in the world.

My son and I are "still" very close but he now has a wife that he shares this great relationship with, and I'm proud he has someone he can call a friend as well as a wife. His love for his Dad is the same way. Now that we have gotten older, he looks after us like an old rooster checking his hens out in the hen house. He is both friends to both of us. He and his Dad have a very close relationship, and they fish together during trout fishing season every week-end and they are such good pals.

I'd say son's do bond with their Mother's and come to them for advice and instruction more so than a daughter does but it doesn't mean a Mother loves a son more than she does a daughter. A Mother's love is pure for her children and there should never be any differences between them. I'll never forget when my son got married, he just couldn't believe he was leaving his Mother and Dad and going to his own home. I must say, it was hard for him to accept because we had such a wonderful relationship with our son. Many times he would say to me, "Mother, I'm homesick, and I miss our friendship more than you'll ever know." I would look at him, and say, "You have a wonderful wife to be friends with now and to share your secrets with, and I'm sure in time you'll find she is a great friend to you too."

I can "still" see that young face, just out of high school, struggling to become an adult and needing to be nurtured one more time by his Mother and Dad.

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