by Becca Badgett

Created on: June 30, 2008   Last Updated: July 01, 2008

We should refer to others as we would have them refer to us, "The Golden Rule" always applies. Even the most inarticulate individual generally knows how to be polite. Address and refer to your elders with utmost respect. The manner of acquaintance often determines how we address and refer to people.

This begins in childhood, as we are taught to call our parents "Mom and Dad", "Mother and Father", or "Mama and Poppa". Most often we learn to speak to our family members with affection and respect, setting the stage for the future interactions of life. Some version of catching more flies with honey may be incorporated into this training, also a valuable skill.

In school and social situations, we probably learn to call our elders who aren't relatives Mr. and Mrs. This adds to the respect factor and most would do well to remember this in the future, as it can enhance communications with educators, prospective employers, and social networking contacts. This is a must for first-time meetings with friends' parents, until they say "Please call me Joe or Susan".

In discussions with others about the same people we should call them "Mr. and Mrs.", even if we call them "Joe and Susan" face to face. This implies that we have respect and regard.

What we call friends, classmates and others of our peers will differ from the aforementioned, but kindness and respect is an asset to all of our dealings with others. Nick names and pet aliases often come into play within our various circles. Sometimes we should save such for private moments.

In other situations, always refer to the police person who pulled you over for speeding as "Officer". Try to include a "Yes Sir " or "Yes Ma'am". Should this not be successful, be sure to call the judge "Your Honor".

Should you meet a member of the electorate, address as Senator, Congressman or Congresswoman and Mr. or Madam President. The Chairperson of any organization should be referred to in this manner as well.

In formal situations, refer to your husband or wife as "Mr. or Mrs.". Preface family introductions with "My husband", "My mother", or "My daughter". Informal situations call for first names or nick names in most cases.

Try to keep communications upbeat and light-hearted; and above all, sincere. You'll be remembered and recognized for not only your superb introductions and referrals, but your sparkling and genuine personality as well.

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