by Seth Angelic

Created on: June 30, 2008

As an attempt to complete the question, I would like to add two words to the question and make it: "How can men ask a complete stranger on a date?"
The basis for this change is that it is assumed that men tend to take the lead on asking people out; furthermore, female psychology tells us that women rarely ask strangers on dates.

Now back to answering the question. First of all, we need to reverse engineer the whole idea of dating. A date is meant for two or more people to get to know eachother on a deeper level, possibly innitiate physical kinesthetics and further schedule future dates. With that said, a date does not hold its traditional meaning anymore; in other words, a date is not meant to help two or more people build attraction between or amongst themselves. Attraction should already be present before the date.

So, now we know that dates are for people who are already attracted to eachother and therefore our question should again be reworded to fit this criteria better. "How can men ask a complete stranger that is attracted to them on a date?"
You can read my other articles on how to tell if someone is attracted to you, but here I will answere this specific question. From your initial interaction to your date day there is a time gap. In order to fill that gap and save yourself any awkwardness later on, you will need to mention your plan to her ahead of time and at this momemnt get a phone number. These are both important, because without them, well, she just won't show up and you won't have any way of getting in touch with her. It is always a good idea to say that you are going out with a bunch of your friends or just a friend of yours and you just would like her to tag along. This way is she rejects you will be able to save your social value. Plus, this way the chances of her showing up increases since there is no pressure on her, also she knows that there will be other people and no awkward silences will occur.
Always keep in mind, that if she says no, there are 3.5 billion potential women out there. So, I want you, in the back of you mind, to think that she is not special and that you don't care if she goes out with you or not. This thought will create your vibe as unneedy and cool. Plus high value guys have many women waiting and wanting to go out with them, and she is just a number in your list of girls to go out with.
Always remember, you will need to give her value (although not too much) and don't forget to state your plans early. Oh, a phone number would be great, wouldn't it?

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