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I have found having a small group of friend's works best for me and my current lifestyle. I would say its better because to me what makes a person my friend has to do with the quality time we spend together the experiences and the mutual respect we share. Having a large group of friends for me would prove to be time consuming and fruitless. When I say small group I am referring to 5 people or less that have stood the test of time over the years and have proven to be true friends. The friends that when someone dies, when you get a promotion on your job or meet that special someone, they are the first ones you call. You can however know lots of people and have associates, people you work with or your neighbors that you come into contact with everyday but are not necessarily considered friends.

I personally have more men that are friends I seem to get along with them better than my female counterparts. I am a very private person and I value the people in my life, I have no room for nonsense or childishness at my age I seek wisdom, honesty, trust and compatibility from the people in my life which takes time to cultivate. I have known people that have lots of friends and have seen the fall out from having too many irons on the fire so to speak. Sometimes when you have too many people in your inner circle you run the risk of jealousy and personalities clashes. I remember being in high school and having several female friends and making the awful mistake of introducing them , because I got along with each girl individually I assumed they would like each other nothing could be further from the truth instead I got caught in the middle of a jealous driven backbiting she said, she said all out brawl. I learned that each person was my friend and none of them were willing to share me.

If having more than 5 people in your day to day life works for you then great however I would still ask this question, of all the people you call your friends in your large group how many can you confide in, how many know each other and how many can you really trust? I would take the liberty to say that if your friends know each other then nothing you say is really in confidence. Weather you prefer a large or small group of friends make sure you take the time to get to know each person and define what your relationship is about.

Each of my friends is totally different and their presence in my life serves different purposes but the common thread is respect and genuine love. Its ironic that in today's world of excess when it comes to personal relations less is definitely more.

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