by R.M.

Created on: June 30, 2008

The already busy bride and groom now has to sit down to make the guest list for their special occasion. This task may seem easy at first, until you relies that everyone you wanted to invite cost you money, and let's face it, today the bride and groom are footing the majority of the bill. Therefore every detail, cost, and person needs to be looked at with great caution.

Making the guest list can be an extremely difficult task. Especially when you get caught up in the game of "invite or not to invite". The bride and groom maybe thinking of inviting a person they knew in high school, and rarely talk to or maybe thinking of inviting a coworker they have been out with a few times is worth spending the extra cost. Then the thought...will they get offended if you don't invite them, or will they understand that it is your wedding, and the budget does not allow you to invite them. This list can be the biggest part of the entire wedding.

The best step to take on creating your wedding guest list is to create a "A" list and "B" list. That is right, create a list of the people you know you want to come. The people you could not imagine spending your wedding day without. Relatives, and close friends should be on the "A" list. The "B" list should be designated for the friends from high school that you don't talk to that much, the co-workers that you have small talk with everyday but not great friends with, and your neighbors that you don't know extremely well but are friendly with and maybe have been over to their house for a BBQ.

Chances are that not everyone on the "A" list will be able to make it. So that will free up some room for the "B" listers.

Send out your invitations, a few weeks earlier then expected and make the R.S.V.P. earlier too. That way you can get a response hopefully well before your wedding, and before you have to give a final head count. Once you get a response that an "A" lister can not make it, send out the "B" lister's invite immediately.

The "B" lister will never know that they were your second choice. That way no ones feeling get hurt, and the cost is not that much since you have already included that person from the "A" list to be there.

Now here is the best part, you should still receive a present from the "A" lister, since that is proper etiquette. Also you should also receive a present from the "B" lister. Sure, it is more work to send out additional invites, but it is worth it.

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