by Valerie Daniels

Created on: June 30, 2008   Last Updated: November 24, 2008

This true story was told to me by a friend who will remain annonymous. At the age of fourteen I was raped and contracted Ghonnorhea and PID or Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. I spent two weeks in the hospital and was given a final diagnosis of what my future might hold. The chances of my ever conceiving were very slim, and even if I could get pregnant, carrying the child would be next to impossible. To make matters worse, I wouldn't know the oucome until I was older. I am older now, and the slim chance and next to impossible's became no chance and completely impossible. I developed, from the diseases, scar tissue on my falopian tubes, completely blocking the passages, on both sides, which I found out at the age of 27, when my husband, at the time, and I decided to try having children. I had two surgeries to remove the scar tissue, was given fertilty pills and sent home to try. I have been pregnant eight times, and could not carry to full term. The first two miscarriages were due to my blood type and his. I was o-, he was a+. So, I wasa given the blood shot, so that I might carry to full term. It didn't ever happen for me. I am now at peace with the cards I have been dealt in life, with only advice to give, not judgement. I had early pain with my diseases, but had never had intercourse before that happened to me and had no idea what to look for. So, even if it is your first time, use a rubber. If it is too late for that, than please, for your future's sake, be checked by a doctor. Here are some symptoms to look for. Dizziness, high fever, pain in the pelvic area or stomach, nausea. But let me warn you that you may feel nothing at all. STD's can be silent, damaging diseases. The best way to prevent what happened to me, happening to you, is to be checked by a doctor, immediately. ANd by all means, have your six month checkups. I learned the hard way, and I know how it feels to be a woman who feels like her womanhood has been taken away, just as soon as it was given to her. I also know what it feels like to be alone on Mother's Day, and how it feels to be in a group of mothers and have nothing to compare with their children's cute stories, or exciting first steps. I also know what it's like to hide my feelings and tears until I am alone, completely alone. Please don't forsake the chance to be a mother with something you can prevent. I didn't make the choice to have sex, it was made for me, but I did have the choice to tell someone about the pain I felt afterwards, and I didn't until it was too late.

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