by Nina Lewis

Created on: June 30, 2008

The man of your dreams finally got down on one knee and asked you those magical words that you have been waiting to hear for a lifetime "Will you marry me?" The proposal could not have been better. Your beau got all dressed up, cooked you a romantic dinner, purchased gorgeous flowers. Everything is perfect, except he forgot one thing.. The engagement ring! You wonder if he is joking, as you look in your champagne glass and delve into your decadent meal, searching for that shiny rock. Once you realize that he is serious, you wonder if he is being cheap or inconsiderate.

An engagement ring is a symbol of love, bond, and truth. History of engagement rings can be traced back to ancient history. Romans were believed to be the first to wear "Truth" rings on their left hand, on what we now call our wedding finger. Egyptians believed the vein from their beloved wedding finger led straight to the heart. Proposing with an engagement ring has been a tradition for centuries. So why is your honey so reluctant to put the bling on your finger? He says that investing in an engagement ring is just another way to get suckered into the commercial world of overrated glamorous weddings. He rather spends his hard earned money on a simple wedding or better yet a new plasma TV for you guys. Do you agree with his argument and settle for a ring less engagement or do you huff and puff, and demand your well-deserved jewel?

What does it matter if your sweetheart does not have the ring to place on your bare finger? He possesses all the qualities that you were looking for in a man. He is humble, sensitive, caring, kind, and funny. He is everything you wrote down on your "Man Wish List". You know you want to spend the rest of your life with him, but you have your doubts since he popped the big question with no big ring. Is it really important that you must have a ring on your finger? Maybe you want to show off your dazzling jewel to your friends. You may feel that an engagement ring is needed, because it gives you a level of security. Being presented with an engagement ring proves that your man is serious. You may feel that the ring solidifies the commitment. However an engagement ring can be a false sense of security. On any given day your lovely gent can walk away from you with no explanation. True love is hard to find, so would you accept the fact that you are engaged and ringless?

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