Abuse and Self Esteem

I am older than most of you over 60 as a matter of fact and I have lived a life like some of you. I was always taught to believe in God and I think this has something to do with my success in life.

One day I had to face what abuse was and what self esteem was. The two were not related to each other. Abuse was physical, mental or emotional that is true. But how was self esteem connected to abuse.

Actually after a lot of thought I decided it wasn't related at all. If I were being abused I would have to remove myself from the situation. How, was the question. Sometimes we can just drop the people who grind away at our moral by not bothering with them. But if these are the people that we share our lives with then we have to find a way to disengage mentally and find a life that gives us relief. Some people are runaways to a fantacy world and never return to reality but that is their escape. Some of us are stong enough to physically push the abuser back into his own world of discontent. Some of us submit. That is a tradgedy.

Building your Self Estem

If you know that your eyes are blue and someone repeatedly tells you they are orange. Eventually you will say hey my eyes aren't blue but they are orange. That's if you believe that the abuser is right and you are wrong. But what if you believe that you are right and that your eyes are blue then whatever the abuser says to you won't even matter as you will know that deep down the abuser is a fool who wants you to be the lessor. Abusers are people who think they are infact less and want to step on someone who may be in their way. YOU! as you are the closest to them. If their strategy works on you then they will try to step on someone else. Until they reach the epitomy of who they think they are.

I always believed in God and that I was favoured in his eyes no matter what the world thought of me. I think well of myself and that is half the battle with abusive situations. In a way you are being abused because you do think well of yourself and are resented for it. If you could only see the weekness in the abusers mind you would be above them totally.

By keeping a record book whether mental or literal of the accounts of all the abuse that you have suffered in your life is equivalent to wallowing in a muddy rut in the road after a rain storm. You can't get out if you don't decide to move forward and get on with the goodness of life. You have the will to

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