by Priscilla Norman

Created on: June 28, 2008

Awareness is one of the top priorities for breaking the cycle of domestic violence. Do not assume anything. Some of the greatest American tragedies have happened in communities just like yours. Please know that domestic violence is usually encompassed by large amounts of shame. The victim has been told by the abuser that they are at fault for what happened, and they are haunted by the shame of their victimization. A victim will lie to keep one from knowing what really goes on behind closed doors. Even when they come forward, they may later retract the truth. They have been trained to fear for their life, and will protect their abuser out of fear. Simply removing a victim from the situation is not always helpful because they tend to go back to the abuser.

The prevention of domestic violence is a grassroots effort, and it starts with your current relationships. Any person that you come in contact with could be a potential victim of domestic violence. Prevention of domestic violence starts with removing these individuals from harm. Do not ignore them! If they show signs of abuse (e.g. bruises, red marks) ask them about it. Sometimes this may be an accident, but if repeated accidents take place ask them again. Be compassionate. Tell them that this may be an accident, but if they are ever victims of domestic violence that there is help available. Tell them that if that is the case, that you will help them to break free. Sometimes that little ray of hope is all that they need.

Observe their relationships with family members, and significant others. One can usually tell if there are relational problems. The abuser could be a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, parent, child, or any family member. Trust your gut instincts. If something is not right about the situation make sure discuss during your next private conversation with the individual may be a victim of domestic violence.

If a victim of domestic violence confides ask the individual if they have reported the violence to the authorities. If not, offer assistance, and research the domestic violence resources in the area. Contact organizations such as safe-houses, and counseling centers. These organizations will help you to find safe, ways to remove the victim from a harmful situation.

In conclusion, the suggestions that I have made in this article seem simplistic. However, if everyone took measures such as this we would be able to fight domestic violence in a whole new way. Compassion such as this can eradicate domestic violence: one family at a time.

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