by See Ing Or -

Created on: June 28, 2008   Last Updated: July 11, 2008

Arranged marriages are good tradition and not outdated
Marriage is the first institution established and approved by God ever since mankind existed on this earth. God arranged the first marriage to happen and it lasted till the end of Adam's time. I believe since the first marriage was arranged subsequent marriages were arranged to happen till today in majority of the cases in the world.

Most of the failed marriages come from non-arranged marriage. Whereas majority of the happy families are from arranged marriages. Hence I strongly advocate that arranged marriages are not at all outdated. In fact it is the marriage the modern society should encourage to accept.

Arranged marriage is a norm
Arranged marriage is a norm for the people of Asia and also among the Royal families of almost all countries of Europe. Looking at the quality of the extended families in India and China, the two most populated countries in the world; there are many valuable lessons we can learn from them.

Coincidently, majority of the marriages is by arranged method and yet the cases of divorces are much lower as compared to those countries that practice non- conventional way. To have an ideal and a happy family is the dream of every man and women who wish to marry. It is this inert urge that has caused the parents in the East to hold on the tradition and starts to look for the best for their children.

May I alert you that "arranged marriage" is a form of the survival of the fittest. How can we call it outdated and not applicable in our modern society of today? Is survival of the fittest not applicable today?

Arranged marriage is not a forced marriage. It is not that the first proposal by the parents or the mediator is final and successful. It is through many rounds of negotiation that agreement is finally settled. It is not that the parties involved have no part to play. The final decision to wed as husband and wife is still in the hands of the man and that lady to be wed. There were cases of arranged marriages failing on the day of wedding. The disagreed party never appear on that auspicious day. Although by name is arranged marriage, it still needs the agreement from both the parties and the desire to be husband and wife. This I call the "planned love at first sight" marriage. I am sure those who are married by the other means met their spouse through some form of "meeting"? Can I say that this is a variant of the arranged marriage?

Misguided view
Those who voted against the arranged marriage

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