I have not had much experience with being cheated on, but my early twenties have taught me a few things. I was with a guy for three years and we had an apartment together and a near perfect relationship...or as close as it could be. I started noticing, well is should say that I did not really notice until after the fact, but he started to critque me. All of the sudden, my hair, which he used to love, was no longer pretty, and my clothes were suddenly ugly. He began to comment on things that never were an issue.

Staying out late and placing a huge importance on going out with work friends became another sign. This guy used to enjoy hanging out at home or with his close friends from college. Suddenly he wanted to go to happy hour all the time and would put plans aside that he had made with me. His work became top priority and he let me know that I came second. Oh, and he did mention a certain co-worker who was really funny who he occasionally had lunch with. I am assuming she was also at the happy hours! Needless to say, he started wearing cologne to work. That was new considering he previously could care less about showering before work. All of these things should have been red flags, unfortunaltely for me, it was my first experience.

The next serious relationship that I am currently in has been going on for almost a year. Here are some sure signs that something is NOT right.....
1. Together for eleven months and I have not met his family nor has he met mine. When the topic is discussed he makes excuses stating that the relationship is about him and I and not about out family. That is the most bizarre thing I have ever heard of. Every other relationship I have been in included family. I do not think that is asking too much.

2. We rarely go out at night in public. Don't get me wrong, we have done some work happy hours together but never a romantic evening with dinner and drinks...or make that out in public just the two of us.

3. I have only been to his house on ONE occasion. He still lives with his parents and you can believe that they were on vacation when I was over.

4. Always with the cell phone..I did check his phone on one occasion and saw text messages from a girl asking where he was and what he was doing. When he responded he made no mention of me; rather he just said that he was home and going to bed. If I am supposed to be your girlfriend than why aren't I mentioned around your so-called friends?

5.There are no pictures of us together.

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