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Love is a many splendored thing; or so I have heard. Eyes meet, hearts beat, birds sing and the world gets turned upside down; unless of course you have an arranged marriage. Then only the parents are happy and we all want our parents to be happy, don't we?

For centuries marriages were often arranged and in many cultures. Perhaps there was a good reason for peoples of the east to arrange marriages. Today, however, the only reason to continue arranged marriages is because of tradition. It's not even a good tradition at that.

Simply because you can trace a tradition, any tradition, back hundreds or thousands year is in no way a good reason to continue a tradition.

Celebrating New Years Eve in Times Square New York is a good tradition. It's a good tradition because no one ever get injured celebrating New Years Eve. Arranged marriages can hurt and they deny a person certain civil rights.

I know there are plenty of cultures where there is no such thing as civil or human rights but that does not make things better.

Arranged marriages are a tradition of a by gone era. Arranged marriages are a great way of controlling people, especially women. Around the globe there has been a custom or tradition of subjugating women, especially women. As with many cultures from eastern cultures and religions they believe it is their right to make women 2nd class citizens.

Control by its very nature suggests a 2nd class citizenship. It also means much more like controlling a life. If you have a desire to control women start with the marriage.

In western societies we tend to frown upon that kind of control imposed upon women. Women tend to frown upon that as well. Any kind of control over anyone is frowned upon. The term frowned upon is actually a very mild term, there are many much more venomous terms that would be more appropriate.

Some eastern cultures and religions have an entirely different view of women. Historically this has been true also; they have almost always had a different view of women. You can see in the media how women today are treated like 2nd class citizens.

There must be a certain lack of respect for both the bride and the groom in arranged marriages. These marriage ideas might be old but that by no means suggests that they are good traditions.

Some traditions should be destroyed faster than a Scotsman can clean out a free bar at a wedding reception. Arranged marriages are one of those traditions.

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