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period wanes, but hey, you love each other so it doesn't really matter now does it? Mistake number two usually occurs around about now. This is where you should be talking these things through, sorting them out amicably while you still can, but no, nature does not intend you to deal with reality just yet. In fact, nature actually didn't incorporate a 'reality check' into her procreation program so the chances are, you and your partner will probably try to overlook each other's little foibles for just a while longer. Neither of you will be inclined to burst the bubble because neither of you want to be the adult who takes on the emotional responsible role of making you both face up to, and deal with, the reality of what you both have done by pairing up. Another evil trick by nature, we may be adults but in the early stages of a relationship we don't want to put on the 'mama and papa shoes' and act like grown ups should.

Eventually in any relationship the honeymoon period and the hormones required to keep it simply fade away. Another of nature's evil plots has succeeded as by now you've had great sex on a regular basis and by rights, without the intervention of modern birth control, any procreation would have already occurred. Nature's job is done so she simply quits right about now and leaves you two to wonder what the hell you've done to be coupled with him or her. Not only do you now have doubts you have downright misgivings. The agonising begins, the questions run through your mind. "Can I put up with this?", "Why did I marry this?", "What the heck was I thinking?". You now express yourself with outright hostile statements such as "I don't like.." or "I can't stand.." The fighting begins. If you are lucky, one or both of you is now willing and able to step up to the mark and take some emotional responsibility for actually building a relationship that can take you both happily into the future. If you are unlucky, the wheels fall off big time and the seeds of disaster continue to grow.

Being 'lucky' enough to have the emotional maturity 'gene' will depend an awful lot on your nature, and your nurturing in childhood. Good relationships are built on both being able to recognize there is a problem and also being able to do something about it. Doing something about it involves taking action, talking , discussing, and listening. It may also involve getting outside help. Getting mad or getting even, yelling and screaming, is useless and destructive to any relationship.

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