by Lynne Mcgee

Created on: June 27, 2008

Relationships fail every day of every week of every year and because humans are human that is what they will continue to do. The question is "Why?". Why do so many of us keep getting it wrong? We can all probably make a long list of reasons that start with 'he this' or 'she that', but the reality is we are all flawed, we all have hormones that over rule our common sense, and we rarely learn from our mistakes.

You meet the man or woman of your dreams. Your hormones surge, you dance the dance that is a new relationship and with hormones at an all time high you experience the love, the passion, and the pure delight of a new bonding with this partner. What you don't really look at during the hormonal flood is the flaws in your partner. Should you notice them you are willing to overlook them or even completely ignore them in order to enjoy the things about them that you so adore and so very much want to be the whole of them. Mistake number one has already been made! You have been tricked by nature, your hormones, and theirs, have set you up for a coupling, to do what nature intended and lead you down the pathway to procreation, and you dear person are not in the driver's seat of your relationship at all. You don't ask the hard questions, you don't face the reality of who each other is, you simply love and overlook. If you talk you talk about the beautiful dreams, the unreal future. You don't talk about who puts out the garbage or where he drops his underwear every morning now do you? Nature is self centered and has a sense of humor and at this point it is getting all the laughs. If we humans could pull ourselves up by the bootlaces and engage our brains at this point potential disaster could be avoided. We don't though, we like good little puppets of nature fall headlong into romance just as Mother Nature intended us to do.

Your relationship, should it last past this stage, experiences a gradual waning of the hormonal flood. You begin to notice more of the flaws, some of which may even amuse you at this stage because, lets face it, you are still in the flush of new love even though you may have been together as a couple for a year or so by now. If you have already moved in together or married you are still in the honeymoon phase and really, from your perspective, his constant tapping or her lipsticks all around the bathroom sink are really just quirks and you can live with them. More and more flaws begin to become obvious and to slowly irritate you as the honeymoon

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