by Elijah Betancourt

Created on: June 26, 2008

The male view of a woman's sexuality is simple, basic, and to be honest...doesn't often hit the mark. The male concept of sex can be drawn with a diagram and comes with a very simple instruction manual that reads: 1) insert penis into vagina (optional), 2) stroke, 3) repeat until done. And for a man, this is pretty much enough to achieve an orgasm. Don't hold it against us that our understanding of a woman's sexuality falls short. After all, this elementary knowledge has perpetuated the survival of the human race for a long time. Yet, somehow, it just quite isn't enough these days, is it guys? In this age of information and sexual equality, men are expected to understand their partner's sexuality more than ever.

Yet, it's no secret that most men have a limited understanding of what turns a woman on, though it is certainly isn't due to a lack of trying. Since adolescence, men have speculated on the Holy Grail of sexual conquest and have sought answers like devotees on a pilgrimage. Some have gathered clues along the way after years of experiences and have tried to disseminate the information to others along the way. "It's the clitoris." "No, no the G-spot!" "No, no, no! The breasts are everything!" For the male pirate in quest of the crowning jewel of the female orgasm, the elusive nature of the booty has haunted men since time began. Now it's time to open our minds!

Admittedly, men rarely know what will inspire their partner when they first make love to them. They will often pull from a grab bag of tricks that they've either seen, done, or heard about when trying to stimulate their partner. What can make the task even more difficult is that a women may not understand her own body enough to tell her partner what she needs. And the situation can get really complicated by the ultimate downfall of both the male ego and the exploration of a woman's sexuality: the fake orgasm. A man may need to learn with each new partner, or sometimes even with the same partner, what excites her and ultimately what helps her to achieve orgasm, which may be entirely different acts altogether. Is intercourse enough or does the clitoris come into play? One woman can have an orgasm with stimulation of their breasts, while another may take an hour of clitoral play. Some may be even incapable of achieving an orgasm without the use of a vibrator, which can make makes the man's role seem mute, other than his role as a domestic partner. So men will awkwardly fumble around trying different

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