by Dulcinea DR

Created on: June 26, 2008

You just broke up with the love of your life. All the memories are now kept in the box. Calls and messages from friends and loved ones are piling up your answering machine, voicemail and inbox. They ask: Why? What happened? How are you? Everyone's so concerned.

However, it's either you feel better or get annoyed. But you can't prevent your loved ones from asking what went wrong and how are you coping. You may choose not to answer, but sooner or later they will know the truth the truth that's better to come from you and not from your ex or his/her neighbor who told the elevator man about your breakup. You owe it to yourself to be heard as your side matters a lot to the people who care about you.

There are also many ways to fearlessly face the new chapter in your life. And it's easier to do these things when those around you understand why you need to do such things. After all, they would do just anything to support you all the way just to let go.

Considering the tips below can also speed up a little the moving on phase which you intend to succeed in a matter of time.

Make a universal message
Provide the concerned people the answer they need to hear. Whether you are fine or not, they deserve to know.

Do not keep the hurt
Share what you feel to your family and trusted friends. Don't shut them off because they are not the ones who torn your world apart. They deserve to know what's going on with you as much as you deserve to receive their love and attention.

Do not shut the window blinds
Let sunlight come in to your house. It may hurt your swollen eyes, but it will prevent you from cry again.

Spend a little cash
If you have extra money, then go for a shopping spree! Relax at the spa, and pamper yourself. Just make sure that your spending will not sacrifice other financial obligations.

Go out-of-town
You may have wanted to do this for a long time, but never had a chance to do so. Now is the time to visit your relatives in another state. If not, just go ahead and visit the nice places you've never been before. Bring along a sister, a brother or a trusted friend who will not abuse your lonesome moments.

Occupy the space
It may be hard for you to look at the spacious closet, sleep on a spacious bed, eat alone, and watch DVD movies all by yourself or not! Don't you remember that you were once desperate of having enough closet space to protect your bag and shoe collection? Didn't you have hard time sleeping because your ex snored like a cow? Now's the time to live freely at your own house, set your own rules, and enjoy having no company that only annoys you.

Never, ever think that you cannot live without him/her!
You came out to this world alone (in case you have a twin, someone will still be the first to come out from the mother's womb). Your ex did not carry your heart and brain with him/her just a part of you that is much too little compared to what you can still have and become. The future will always have something more to offer.

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