by Frieda

Created on: June 26, 2008   Last Updated: August 13, 2009

"My marriage will not be like yours!" I used to tell my parents. And although,they are not quite at each others' throats, it is not a respectful union.In a way, I am glad I had the example of "how not to treat your marriage" right in front of me for many years. I just wish my parents knew they were poisoning each other with disrespect and mistrust and openly admitted it.

I met my husband far, far away from home, at the time when I needed help and support more than ever and there was no close family around.He enveloped me in care and understanding letting me spread my wings and become trusting and loving again.
He isn't a man of many words but his deeds speak for themselves. Whatever he does for me and our children is inspired by love and responsibility.Our lives are rushed and controlled by various commitments: children, jobs, pets, but even in this chaos he finds time to make our marriage peaceful and easy-flowing.
I am not a morning person, so knowing and appreaciating this my husband is always first to walk the dog before work, and when I open my eyes woken up by the circus jumping children on my bed he is always there by my side with the steaming coffee in his hand.I love these moments so much, they make me feel like I am the only one who matters to him at that moment.
He is always there when I need him, whether it is reading with the children or mowing the lawn.My husband is the best father you can wish for. He is tireless, endless well of games and jokes.
We used to be very clammed-up people when we first got married, I think it was the consequence of the strained relationships we were both in before. So little by little we have learned to let go and allow ourselves to be forgiving and giving.
The most important lesson for a successful marriage I have learnt is honesty.Whether with yourself or your husband without honesty there is no trust and this is when things start fall apart.I know that he can trust me and I can trust him without any doubt and this makes me feel confident to face the everyday life as I know I have something reliable and concrete and it is all mine.
My husband makes my life complete every day by just being himself whether the day was good or not.I feel happy knowing that he is appreaciative of me and the things I do for the family and I am in return eternally glad that he has taught me the meaning of true commitment to one another.

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