by Desiree Krick

Created on: June 26, 2008   Last Updated: April 24, 2010

"No Where To Turn"

Many of us have different ways of coping with life after child sexual abuse due to the severity of the crime or crimes,what actions were taken after the crime,if it was even reported, and what support network we had and or have throughout our lives. At the age of twenty-nine, I am finally able to start to face the what has happened to me at the young age of eleven years old. My prolonged inability to face the past was due to pressure from the family to accept the man who had molested me. One question needed to be answered to be able to finally cease all communications with the perpetrator. Was it worth it to me to lose my entire family over what he did to me? The question was easily answered when it came to the issue of him having kids spend the night at his house. Losing my entire family was more than worth it to me to protect and prevent this from happening to other children in the family. Coping with sexual abuse has actually made me stronger today. I have recently sought to have charges filed in my case only to be told " My case is not serious enough." As a victim of a crime it is extremely serious to me! I will not stop fighting for justice for myself and other victims whose perpetrators have slipped through the cracks! That's how I am coping with life after sexual abuse!

My story is very different than the average victim of child sexual molestation. I was molested at the tender young age of eleven years old. I was brought up pressured by my family to accept the man responsible for this heinous crime on my youth. He continued to live in my house and I reluctantly continued to have a relationship with this man up until last year. I am now twenty-nine years old and have young kids in the family who I recently found out were
spending the night at his house. I confronted him and the parents and made them well aware that I do not accept this and will never accept the thought of them sleeping over at his house. I gave my family members this scenario "Would you walk into the street if you knew a moving bus was coming?"It was time for me to face what he did to me and I ceased all communication with him. In the meantime, my relationship with my sister also come into conflict and I ceased all communication with her for an entire year. As an adult I have insurmountable pressure to accept him for what he has done and to not hold him accountable for his actions. I have three sisters and I risk relationships with everyone of them if I want to seek

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