by Zachary Mcbride

Created on: June 25, 2008   Last Updated: October 31, 2008

You find yourself home alone, while your friends are out with there significant others. You begin thinking if you will find yourself "the one" so you will be able to join the rest of your friends out in the world of couples. Do you go out and pursue that guy or girl out there? Do you just go about your everyday life to see if you just randomly run into your "soul mate"? Or do you just think about all the fun stuff you can do while your single, and that it might actually be better for you to be single and not tied down with anyone because you enjoy your freedom you have come to notice as of late. So you just laugh at all your friends for being settled down at the age they are, while you are living your life to the fullest even if it may be at the expense of being single and alone.

When I talk with my friends that are guys, they say that they enjoy being single so they can "play the field", but when I talked to my friends that are girls almost all of them replied with, they like having that person to come home to and that comfort blanket around them. Two different sides here. So how can that single girl find "Mr. right" if the majority of the guys out there just enjoy being single? I find it stupid that America has this mold that they have planted in everyone's mind, that the right thing to do is, get married, have kids, live together until death. Not everyone seeks the same thing, so it drives others to look for things they really don't want in life, or at least not that person. If you are one of those people that just enjoy being single, but America tells you that being single isn't right, and then you go and look for someone even though you know you don't really truly want it.

I think that if you have the mindset that you will enjoy the single life, then you will enjoy the life of being single. If you have the state of mind that you want, and need to find your other half you will. It's all a mental game. A lot of people seem to just go with the flow, but then mentally you don't know if you want that "comfort blanket" or you just want to "play the field" which leads to crushes, friends, and possibly short romances.

Personally, I don't think being single is better. I am a rare breed of the male race. I enjoy coming home to my "comfort blanket" and I enjoy cuddling up and watching a movie with the same girl day in and day out. Sure, the single life has its perks, but to me I would trade in every one of those perks to get out of the single life. I have been "playing the field" for a while now, and I have found that the single life is in fact fun but nowhere near as exciting as it is to not be single.

In conclusion I don't really think anyone can determine if being single is better, due to the fact that everyone has a different outlook on what they want in life. If you want to be single, you would think that being single is in fact better than being in a relationship. But, if you think that having a boyfriend/girlfriend is your cup of tea, then you will think the single life is miserable, boring, and lacking all the things you want in life.

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