by Mayra M

Created on: June 25, 2008   Last Updated: June 26, 2008

A lot has been written about soulmates and the psychology of love. Some believe that there is one special person designed for you and others leave that to the movies. Some people will tell you that there's more than one soulmate for you and that if you feel someone is your soulmate, but you've never met him or her or you have broken up, then he or she wasn't your soulmate. And people talk about how the mind works and how you may have a distorted image in your mind of the person you think is your soulmate and that is why you haven't met the right person. And there's some validity to that. We all know that like attracts like, so you can't expect to attract someone who has gone through the process of becoming a better person and who has gotten their life together if you haven't done that yourself or if you feel inferior when comparing yourself to that person. That just wouldn't be fair to you or that person because you can see how you both are going to clash in more ways than two people can handle. And the purpose of life is to move forward not backwards.

But you can go around in circles analyzing this subject without arriving at a definitive answer, so we can only make your own conclusion. I believe that if you came into existence with the knowing and desire to have a relationship with this One person, then it must be part of your life purpose to experience it. Just like when you desire to be a teacher, a lawyer, musician, etc. However, if you do not believe nor do you have the desire for such relationship, it isn't for you. I don't think every single person on the planet is going to experience romantic relationship in the same way just like we all don't desire to become doctors or lawyers.

One the other hand, people who find themselves happy with their partners sometimes experience that prior to meeting that One person, they met someone whom they had a deep connection with and felt they've known this person their entire life, but that person turned out not to be the One, therefore the One does not exist. But the next person that they met turned out to be the One just that the deep connection was not there. And that is entirely possible, since not everyone is going to experience the One in the same way, but it does not mean that the One does not exist. We are unique beings and by design no two people will experience something exactly in the same way or in this case couples. And you know, we all have to start somewhere, so are we going to have unrealistic expectations

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