by Camee C.Torrence

Created on: June 25, 2008   Last Updated: August 03, 2008

Learn to give yourself unconditional love, and stop looking for love in the wrong places.

Stop depending on others for love, and start loving yourself unconditionally. Most people confuse unconditional love with dependant love.

Dependant love is to rely on someone for a feeling of selfworth, support, and maintenance.
Unconditionally loving yourself is, improving yourself, it's making your self value grow,

it's giving yourself the benifit of doubt.
Dependant love comes from when people treat other people, as though they are their responsibility, property, or their obsession, and in most cases, the person that's being treated, loves it, at that time, and so do the givers, or sponsors, some people love it when others rely on them, It gives them a sence of self worth, they feel as though they're doing what is right, or they're giving back, or they've found their calling, but this is not always good for the taker, because they sometimes think this is true love, but when the party is over, and the mask come off, they have anticipated the next go round already, they are falling deeply in love with the idea of a fantasy, sometimes its lust, sometimes it can be a manipulative controll trap, or it could be that the giver also has to depend on someone to fill in their void.
If a person doesn't understand, or has never experienced true love, they usually have a feeling of inadequacy, a growth of low self esteem, and it could've been festering for years, steming from childhood, for instance, a child depends on its mother for food as they grow, and also to be potty trained, if that child is not weened off at the right stage, the child could become disoriented and rebellious, sometimes children think that the parents, or the parent owes them, and when issues like this aren't addressed immediatey, the child grows increasingly bitter and unpleasant, this is psychological dependence.
Some people get their way so much, that they think in almost every case, that they are right, and when things don't go there way, or people don't comply to them, they become angry and rebellious and sometimes abusive.
If you are trying to find, or want real love, you must start with yourself, you have to look within, be honest with youself, and look at why these chains of events just recycle, ask your self why do I feel a void in my life?, also be willing to let go of old habits, spend some alone time for yourself, give yourself time to think of what is it you really want, and what would make you happy.
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