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Around Christmas time my boyfriend of almost two years broke up with me. I was sick with pneumonia and caught up in the whirlwind of preparation for college. I never realized how much of a jerk he was until after he broke up with me. Why would I allow for him to dictate what I wore and what I liked to eat? I felt terrible that I had let him live my life for me. I hated him and I wished I had never allowed myself to fall into the relationship that only caused me pain. All I could do was lay on the couch, regretting the last two years of my life.

After awhile, things starting looking up and I was beginning to spend time with another guy. I liked him and I thought he was nice, so I was willing to take the chance. One night when I was driving home from his house, I hit black ice. I can only remember the sounds of snapping and bending metal. My car went off the road and down a bank, flipping over three times before wedging between two trees. My head hurt so bad but I knew that I had to get help. I could not see the road that I had come from, but I saw lights further down.

I tumbled down the rest of the hill, snagging my clothes on berry briars. I finally made it to a house where I called my parents. I didn't really know what to say because I had no idea where I was or what had happened...

I was really cold in the hospital gown. I felt like a helpless animal because it hurt so bad to move. They told me I was really lucky because things could have been much worse.

A week later the guy I was seeing decided it wasn't going to work out.

I was lost for a long time. It had to be a nightmare. I felt sorry for myself for making such poor decisions.

It took me awhile to understand the situation. I was amazed at how quickly life could be taken away. With this I vowed to love each day. No one is perfect. No one has the ability to make perfect decisions. No good can come from feeling bad about the decisions of the past. When I found the strength to believe that these decisions were made for a reason, a reason that I may not always understand, I allowed myself to grow and gain a better understanding of my life. I will never take advantage of life again, viewing everyday as an opportunity to make a positive impact on those I come in contact with.

What good does it do to regret? To wish upon the past is to disrespect the potential future. Although I have not always been proud of my choices and actions, I believe these experiences have helped to shape the person that I am continuing to develop into.

Coming to this realization has been difficult. Regretting and feeling bad about the past is easier than finding the strenth to accept the actions and decisions that we have made. Once we can learn and build upon the past, we are advocating for a brighter future.

If we can live without the fear of regret, we can open a whole new world of possibilities. Without the past dragging us down, we have freed ourselves to make choices that true to our feelings and thoughts in the present situation.

With the understanding that the past is an essential piece to people we are, we can overcome the actions and decisions that may have caused us pain. This will allow us to build a strong foundation of faith, a foundation that grows stronger with everyday we live on this earth.

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