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wanted. There were guys lined up WHILE we were dating. I was impressed that a woman had obviously made a conscious decision in the face of countless opportunities to say "no" until she had a ring and a lifelong commitment.

She was actually the first woman I had dated to have been a virgin. I have stated that I was very impressed with that, but it never really bothered me that my previous girlfriends were not virgins. It's just that when I discovered Mary was one, it was a nice bonus.

Then again, the girls I was dating were not exactly "sluts", either. They had mostly been with one or two other guys. If they had a stable of twenty, it may have bothered me more. Actually, I'm sure it would have. I can't imagine dating a "Sex in the City" type girl - as attractive as I do find Kristin Davis. I don't think it's judgemental. There are two reasons that stick out in my mind - one practical: the threat of disease, the other emotional: How would I know this woman who has dated "everybody" has any kind of standards by which to appreciate me (yes, some men think about these things, too) and how long can I realistically expect her to stick around?

I waited as long as I did because it was right for me. I was not necessarily on a hunt for another virgin. I was looking for the right woman for me. and if, on my wedding night, I was the only "rookie, that would have been fine. The fact is I'm sorry I did not wait longer.

I finally gave in at age thirty-one after Mary broke my heart, but years before I met my wife. I'm sorry about that, but my wife understood. The intriguing part was that as soon as Mary made it clear that I would not be joining her on her wedding night, I was overcome with regret that I did not try harder to be with her. The fact is that I did not try at all. I wanted her so badly and yet waiting with her for our honeymoon was not only acceptable but a delight. However, the moment she walked out the door, I instantly cursed myself for not having at least that with her.

Gwen, the woman I made love to for the first time was amazing, but I regret not waiting. I also regret that it was with Gwen. We were close friends and I was attracted to her, but we knew we should just be friends. I guess I felt that the love of my life had just rejected me and that I would never love again. I just wanted to be with an exceptional woman, even if it was not the one I had been dreaming of. It was not a one night stand. It was several times over the course of several months, but the effects were the same. The friendship was not instantaneously ruined but, it was strained and eventually lost.

So, does a woman's sexual experience come into play in the mind of a potential suitor? It does to me to a certain degree. I am not bothered by someone with some experience. But I would be by someone with a ton of experience. On that count, I am most fortunate. I get to spend every night with a woman less experienced than me and the only one I know whose beauty surpasses Mary's.

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