by Matthew Marcus

Created on: June 24, 2008   Last Updated: July 02, 2008

In this new world of sexual freedom, are women compelled to push themselves too far just to get noticed, and if so, does this damage their marry-ability? Women are making out with their girlfriends for the camera phone at the bar, going home with strangers that they have just met in the club, and compiling long lists of ex-boyfriends in the process. At what point does this behavior hinder their ability to find a man to settle-down with? We asked several Scottsdale men their opinions on sex, dating, and relationships, and how sexual openness affects the market value of a female who may find herself looking for a groom later-on.

"John" has had sex with about 100 partners. "Some of the women are older, already divorced, but others are young and not interested in settling down. It seems like in every club there are the girls that are going to go home with somebody no matter what", says "John". "Honestly, the girl that I take home after just meeting at the club is most likely not going to stick around long enough to even have a chance to get to know each other. It's just for fun".

"Bill" who is a little more reserved, says that he dates women, but he's not really much of a one-night stand kind-of guy. "I have a lot of friends that are girls, and I also date a lot of women. Most of them understand that the relationships are a matter of convenience, and that it's not to be taken too seriously. When it comes to determining the girl I settle down with, being good in bed is important, but its not the most important thing. I think if a girl was too wild, it might be a bit of a problem as far as settling down. That's really not about her past though. If she had a wild past, but she's a little classier now, it wouldn't bother me. If she's still real wild, that's just kind-of a sign to me that she's not ready".

"Mark" is married to a former stripper, and they are expecting their first baby in a few months. "I have to admit, I don't really enjoy hearing her talk about her past sexual exploits, however, it's clearly not a deal breaker. It's not like I didn't have my fun when I was younger. The key is that I trust her, and she trusts me, and we have a great relationship. It works for us".

"Brad" has a differing point of view. "I don't think that either men or women should be too promiscuous. Maybe I'm old-fashioned that way. I'm not saying that a woman should be a virgin until she's married, but I think it is wasteful for people go into relationships just for the sex. There should

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