by Hanford Harvey

Created on: June 24, 2008   Last Updated: July 02, 2008

A sexual, sensual woman has, in the past, been viewed as wrong or amoral. This is, of course, a new millennium, and we've all graduated to a new level of thinking, or so we thought. Some men seem to be caught in the mindset that a woman should have only a single partner, or as few as possible, without the same rule applying to ourselves. One might argue that, as men, who measure so much of our worth upon what we possess and accomplish, that "used goods" are less attractive. Conversely, men are slowly coming to realize that between the extremes of the pure, virginal prize many envision, and the reckless wanton woman who cannot be content with one man, there lies a median that is perhaps the greatest find of them all. As is often the case, for men and women alike, one may think they know what they want, only to learn that they sold themselves on an idea when what they really wanted, or needed, was something they dismissed out of hand.

A woman who hasn't known any other sexual liaisons before settling into a long-term relationship is pristine, true. However, she also does not fully know what she wants in the bedroom, and may even find herself wondering and straying from the relationship later. At the opposite extreme, a woman who changes from partner to partner may seem alluring, but often neither person enters the relationship expecting it to last. This approach under the guise of harmless fun and companionship is good, so long as one party doesn't suddenly envision the relationship as more than it is. Unless they both have a change of heart at the same time, one person invariably ends feeling trapped, and finally escapes, causing the other unintended pain. Now, between these two extremes, lies a woman who has tested the waters, and learned what she likes, and who she desires. When she enters a serious relationship, she has a basis of comparison both for personal connection, and for sexual performance.

The fact that a woman has previous sexual experiences is not a negative in a relationship. Rather, gives her knowledge, which is always an advantage. She knows what pleases her, and of things that she can do to please her mate. Beyond simple experience, she also has a better idea of what she wants in a sexual partner, and what she will and will not be able to deal with in a long-term relationship. Finally, for us men, she is a diamond in the rough, so to speak, because she has had other men, and knows she could have others, but has decided to be committed to just

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