Many of us can remember the time when a woman was to be barefoot, pregnant, and the primary person in the home to cook, clean, and take care of things that the bread winner or man did not wish to deal with. Things have changed as can be perceived from the exhibited sexuality of women in the 21st century.
For decades a woman was to submit to her husband and be at his beck and call. She was expected to be a virgin at marriage and should be able to cook, clean and do regular household chores to earn her keep from her husband. She was treated as a lesser individual because she was a female.
Things started to change for women in the late 1800 and early 1900's but it was not until the 1980's women could really start expressing themselves without receiving at least one of many derogatory names associated by men to her sexuality. Women really started looking out for themselves in this era and rather than assuming the lifestyle of old started a change. A change for the better.
No more would the days reign that a woman had to be married by a certain age or cast out into oblivion and termed an old maid. No more would she have to be a virgin to be married. What she would need to do is to work on her education and career. There will be time for a family later.
In the early 1980s and prior a woman would be considered a "slut" or "trash" if she had sex with multiple partners before marriage or, after. A woman was unable to express her sexuality in any form. Men loved this because it gave them the opportunity to teach their wife and "train their wife in the way they thought sex should be. Basically he gave him that macho feeling may of us used to hear about.
Now men feel threatened because more often than not a woman will teach the man things he has only dreamed about. Women are becoming more dominant in sex and relationships. Women are starting to set the ground rules the men must live and abide by in order for a relationship to work. Women's sexuality has become a dominating factor in society today.
Many individuals feel threatened by this new lifestyle or way of expressing the sexuality of women. The only threatening thing about it is, change. There are now more house husbands than before, and more women earning the living in these homes. Older men are threatened because this takes away from the norms they were taught and raised with.
We were taught by many that when a young lady slept with other individuals that when she marries she would continue to do so. Just the opposite of what we were taught as young men. In the last 20- 30 years though we have seen a rapid decline in the number of virgin marriages. This is because women have found that they to can express their sexuality the way a man has done for ever. Women feel if they learn, work, and are able to provide a future then why should they rely on the lifestyle of old. Instead, why not enjoy what life has to offer. Experiment and play the field. Find what really makes them happy.
The 1960's is an era known for its "free Love." It seems that this free love era only referred to men. A man was free to choose who he wanted but more oft than not he had to agree to share "his" women. Once a woman was chosen she was there unless her "master" agreed to lend her to another. Now the table has turned. It is the sexuality of women that is the driving force in the free love or free sex movement.
Women actually make the choice of who they wish to share their sexual experiences with. A woman could choose her man and drop him like a hot potato for any faults that he may exhibit during their time together. Men do not like this. This takes away from the part of the ego that makes a man feel in control.
A woman's ego however does not need to feel the control. They do not discard and replace men in their relationships for control. Women replace them because the men are lacking in what the woman is looking for. Be it the ability to love, respect, or romance the woman. Women now do not have to take what is there. Instead, they can choose what makes them happy, fulfilled and satisfied.
Many people over 40 and most men have a problem with this. The table is slowly turning to respect a woman's sexuality but it is slow to come with certain people. The over 40 generations are just about the last individuals who were taught these women should stay at home barefoot and pregnant. These women do not belong in professional careers and should only work meaningless jobs for a bit of change.
The younger generations are more embracing of this switch in a woman's sexuality because it relieves a lot of stress in relationships. No more does the male have to be the pursuer in a relationship. No more does a young woman have to submit to her one "true love." Women can now choose in part the major events that will shape the rest of her life. She also has at her disposal the ability to check men out the way we used to check out women. She could choose based on experience what qualities she expects in her man and not be chastised for checking the availability of such a person.
On the other hand, if a woman so chooses that she wishes to abstain from a sexual encounter then she is in the right as well. This is really bothersome to men who are initially attracted to a woman because of her physical attributes. Some of these young men tend to become very dissatisfied quickly if a woman says no. However it just helps her to find the true Mr. Right. Which brings us to the one night stand.
If a man and woman have sex and then she refrains from sex it is like telling the man he isn't, or wasn't a man. He will get rather frustrated and more likely than not the relationship will end. It is possible however that if the situation changed he would be able to be reeled back in by the young lady at her call. Hence the change in sexuality from the decades past. It is now truly a woman's world. Make the best of it!