by Pam Caylor

Created on: December 31, 2006   Last Updated: May 11, 2007

You had an abortion, maybe even more than one.

You are not defined by one terrible act. Thankfully, none of us are.

You may constantly wonder how you can possibly forgive yourself for your abortion or abortions.

"Forgiveness is only really meaningful when we forgive what seems unforgivable. If you don't forgive, you don't break the cycle of violence. It just goes on and on until there is no one left standing. Forgiveness is a way to unburden oneself from the constant pressure of attempting to rewrite the past." (Nora Gallagher, modified)

We don't forgive to make what was done "right". In fact, we forgive because what was done was wrong. If it was not wrong, there is nothing to forgive, right?

The truth is, no matter how much we want to justify it, we know that taking the life of our unborn baby was wrong. Once we can accept that fact, we can begin to move forward into forgiveness and healing.

You've probably wondered, "What kind of person takes the life of her own baby? How can God forgive me? He gave me a gift, an innocent little life that I carelessly destroyed, as if it had no value, as if my life would some how be like it was before I ever heard those words, You're pregnant'. Why wasn't I more responsible?"

You may look around you and wonder what in the world people would think of you if they knew what you did. You may think, "Surely no one I know would do such a horrible thing". In fact, about forty-five percent half - of all women of childbearing age have had one or more abortion. We all know women who've aborted they just don't talk about it.

You probably often ask yourself things like, "Why didn't someone tell me the truth? Why was I told the lies? Didn't they know that some day I would learn the truth and then it would be even harder to handle what I've done? What will I ever do to make up for aborting my own baby?"

This article will help you answer some of these questions and begin your journey to healing and forgiveness.

Let's examine the meaning of forgiveness. In part, Webster defines forgive: 1 a: to give up resentment of or claim to requital for; b: to grant relief from payment of 2: to cease to feel resentment against (an offender): s gifts and His call are irrevocable. [He never withdraws them when once they are given, and He does not change His mind about those to whom He gives His grace or to whom He sends His call.]" (Emphasis added) God is so in love with you! You are His little child and He longs to have a relationship with you. He misses you.

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