I've been a victim and I've been a survivor too. At the same time, I can't say that I'll ever again refer to myself as one or the other, because you see, the two tend to go together. If victimization doesn't kill you, you'll be a survivor. If you don't survive, you'll be a victim forever. The key for me is to strive to be anonymously free of each. Surviving is fine. It keeps you alive, but who wants to spend their lives being identified as, "a survivor?" To me, that sounds as if you're waiting for a disaster to happen, so that you can survive and be identified by the role. Still, who wants to remain within a survival mode? I choose to say that I'm neither a victim, nor am I a survivor, because of the fact that I don't intend to be victimized by life. I simply strive to find peace of mind all the time, in spite of any demise that comes up in my life.

Don't get me wrong. Anonymity didn't come easily for me. It seemed that I was victimized all the time, so becoming a survivor was the goal of my life. If I had a dime for every time I cried, "LIFE'S NOT FAIR," I'd be too rich to care how unfair life can be, but you see, since no one gave me even one dime, I paid the price, and feeling victimized almost cost my life.

I've survived so many things that I've come to believe that the law of attraction went into action to bring more for me to survive. That's why I know it's true. Thoughts, beliefs and feelings do become, "things," and since being victimized became my middle name, it identified me and I believe that it was my role as a victim which created a deadly disease. I was branded with the big, "C," which gave me a survival story to tell, and I told it very well. The title would always be, "I'm a survivor of something." It was as if I was shouting out, "Hey, Universe! Look at me and please bring me something new to survive so that I can keep my identity!"

You see, I told my story so well that the story began to identify me and even tell itself. It wasn't until, to my surprise, so much time went by that my story got too old to tell and re-tell. It was time for me to get over it and simply be anonymously victim free. How boring that seemed. Still, what I didn't realize is the fact that hanging onto a role created a need that kept me going back and forth from being a victim to becoming a survivor again and again. You can't be a survivor unless you are striving to survive being victimized. For me, there had to be a demise to

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