by Beverly Johnson

Created on: June 22, 2008

Pregnancy, conceiving a child and dealing with stresses of infertility

My spouse and I wanted a baby for ten years, before we
conceived. Often there was so much stress involved in
not being able to conceive. Sometimes I wondered why
others were allowed to have children while I wasn't.

But then one day I realized that I needed to focus on
my own self worth and development, so that our child

would be joining a happy and healthy family.

If you have problems conceiving, like we did, you may find that
you lose focus on the child and focus only on
becoming pregnant and are completely unprepared for parenting duties.

You will only be pregnant for a short time, but your child
will be with you for many years.

Take time before conceiving, to focus on training yourself to be a good parent, that
way you will be prepared for the child when he or she finally arrives.

Don't forget to nurture your own health and advance your education.

You might take this time before getting pregnant to watch
parenting how-to videos and read parenting advice books.

Don't simply buy baby clothes and set up the baby's nursery
for the child who has not yet been conceived.

Instead, focus on more realistic needs, like setting up a
college trust fund that can be earning interest from day one.
By the time your baby is born, you may have a sizable savings for
his or her future.

The best gift that you can give to any future child is a safe
and secure home with two loving and financially secure parents.

Don't let your marriage suffer over infertility.
Take the time to get to know your spouse or partner better and
fall in love, all over again.

Take online college courses or finish your degree so that
you will have a viable way of caring for your newborn in the event
that you become a single parent or need extra money to support your child.

Take some time now, before your child is conceived to review
all important legal documents including life insurance, trust papers, wills, etc.

After conceiving your child, you may find that you have no energy
to take care of these important matters.

And don't forget to take time out to nurture yourself!

Healthy babies come from healthy mommies!

Conceiving a child is not always easy. But it's not impossible.
The key is to maintain a strong relationship with your partner and
remain true to yourself. When you do that, your child will be
welcomed into a happy and loving family.

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