by Heidi Hauptly

Created on: June 22, 2008

Are you in a cookie cutter relationship? Or do you have a relationship that stands outside the cookie shape and stands on it's own? Dating is like fishing. You cast your rod and hope you get a good catch that you don't want to put back. For some you put back more then you ever get to keep. You search and search for just that one angel fish until you find them.

Each couples path to meeting and marraige is as diffrent as our own DNA. No one relationship is the same and why would you want it to be? That would be very boring if we all met our spouses the same way and got married the same way wouldn't it? I have been married for seven years and I have learned a thing or two about dating and relationships. Not to mention watching my friends and own family go through the trials and tribulations of dating and marraige.

Once you have struck a potential relationship with a person you'd like to date you begin going out. The guy thinks that ok he's won her thus far what does he have to do to keep her? Flowers, candy, poems and other fancy gifts to show his affection and caring towards this woman he's interested in are mear tokens of how he thinks he can keep her interested in him. That's how my husband was when we were dating. They have it in their minds that they might loose the girl so on her birthday he'll send her flowers, or write her a poem. That is not what I wanted at all.

Yes all those things are super awesome but in all reality I wanted to spend time with him. He had to work late which I understood but it was my birthday and I wanted to spend time with him instead of his nice box of chocolates and flowers I found at my door step after returning home from work. My husband when we were dating, brought me flowers and stuffed animals, but what I really apprechiated was him going out of his way to see me. He lived an hour away and I felt the strongest connection towards him making the effort to see me several times a day rather then have any present in the whole world.

The more time you spend with this person you begin to develope other feelings that you forsee lasting for more then just a short period of time. My husband and I knew that six weeks after we met we wanted to marry. We felt such a connection towards each other that we knew we had to be married. We had so much in common and got along so well that we just felt we couldn't be without one another.

Before we knew it we have been married seven years and things are still going great. So to answer a really important

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