by Ruth Adams

Created on: June 20, 2008

Have you ever felt as if you needed to get somewhere urgently, but were bound and gagged with your hands tied behind your back; being taken, against your will, in the opposite direction?
You might go round and round in circles, blaming yourself or somebody else; getting more and more agitated; feeling abandoned, helpless and doomed. Not a nice feeling.

Here are four techniques to help you free yourself from the cognitive prison that we all experience. They are ways to help your spirit penetrate your life, causing it to flow more positively.

The first technique is: Write to G-d. Tell Him how you feel. Ask for His help and guidance. As you write to Him you'll peel off layers of repression of yourself. Simultaneously, you'll lose the guilt and self blame that accompany repression. You'll reach a higher level of awareness as your thinking processes are validated from Above. As this happens you'll find yourself writing things that support you, even answering some of your questions (or screams for help).

The second technique involves writing yourself urgent notes like newsflashes. When something is "in writing" it conveys authority and gets internalized. So write yourself all the things you want and need to see "in writing". For example, you may be worried about your ability to pull something off; or get through to somebody; or you may be eating yourself up with anxiety about your child or someone else. Even though you know that anxiety hurts the cause, you just can't seem to shake it off.

So write something like: "(your name)! This is something you need to know urgently and immediately! I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW WELL YOU'RE DOING! (what ever you're worried about) is going BETTER than you could have IMAGINED! I'm SO proud of you (your name)! Everyone likes you and co-operates with you. (the child or other person) is doing excellently! All the solutions are incredibly clear to you. You know how to act. Well done (your name)! I'm really happy for you (your name)!" etc.

It's imperative to write only positive things for this exercise. Lay it on thick like an advertisement and use your own name several times to make it personal. Then read what you've written. You'll be teaching yourself to think positively and when you do this, your feelings will also be positive.

The third technique is meditate. Listen to meditation discs or attend meditation sessions. Meditation allows you to return to your inner self; regardless of what is, or has been, going on around you. Relaxation is vital for both physical and mental health and you owe yourself the time it takes to relax.

The fourth technique is: Dance. Try dancing regularly for at least 20 minutes every time; once a week or even every day. Dancing is good for your bones and your general physical fitness. It causes a release of endorphin, which causes a feeling of well being. Dance to music you love and want to identify with. You'll stop putting energy into what you dislike and you'll celebrate life.

This causes life to celebrate you!

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