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the whole truth for both parties.

Truth must always be universal to be honestly given. Never give your own truths to another brutally, and without love, or without being asked to do so. As this truth is your truth, and not yet part of overall truth, accepted by all. When you talk expressing universal truths honestly, you are usually embracing the bigger picture of truth, and so enclosing the others truth in there too. And so when he feels the honesty of you portraying what he knows is truth, it will never hurt him in a brutal way, even though it is direct and frank.

The truth connection brings with it the silver lining of love attached, and so this cushions the perceived directness, and all is only really for the best.

Can frankness, and truth ever hurt others?

The truth that is to be given, is never the final truth. The picture can change, and the truth you are telling someone now, might not be the full, and complete picture of truth, at a later stage. Brutal frankness is trying usually to tell the complete truth, and not to leave anything out. But this approach to truth never works, as the truth is never complete. It is always growing. There is always another facet, another approach, and another step forwards, for all truth, as it finds its way accompanying love, towards ever and ever greater truths, and understanding of itself.

Love experiences truth in many different ways. What came first then, love or truth? Love was born truthfully, and has always contained truth in it. The idea of truth being experienced by us, is for us to be able also to experience this love growing in us, at the same time. As well as we be honest and truthful, as well as we will gain in the ability to love, and to receive love, back to ourselves.

Brutal frankness is never loving, and will never receive love back to it either. This should tell you then, that this approach can never work totally for you, or for the other person. Truth should be shared at the level that love allows. Let the rest all go to another time and place.

If someone is dying of cancer, do you brutally inform them then, or do you tell them, not at all?

Love follows itself, and if it feels a connection to itself in the other, honestly telling them is always best. If you feel only resistance, and pain being hidden by lack of acceptance, let the brutality of the truth remain hidden as well. It has not got love enough to breach the unawareness of the other person, and they need to not be pushed, or forced into growing past their unawareness unlovingly. With time, awareness comes, accompanied by honest truth, and the other person allows the pain then to indicate to them the areas of untruth they are yet hiding.

Perhaps the only place for brutal frankness, then is when we are being totally frank with ourselves. This leads to total honesty, but even with ourselves, if we want to understand love, rather than force ourselves to move forwards brutally with frankness, it is still better to love ourselves, as we are right now. Love always brings us to ourselves within time, in its own loving way.

Love's approach, is always truthful, always honest, but never hurtfully brutal in a forcing way. Love is like the wind that moves us along, when we decide not to resist, but to allow it to move us along in the way that it wants to move us. Love is gentle and kind, never brutal, frank, untruthful, lacking tact, dishonest,or unkind, or forceful, in any way. And so also,is honesty.

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