by Josiah King

Created on: June 19, 2008   Last Updated: July 18, 2008

I cannot say that there is any one thing that is key to a successful marriage. It takes a blending of so many things to harvest a successful marriage.

I am big on cooking, and have had the opportunity to work next to some 4 star chefs in my life, and so I really appreciate cooking. So, I look at marriage as preparing a 4 star meal. There is more to the preparation of a good meal than just a good kitchen.

Freshness of ingredients is an absolute must in any high-quality meal, and the same rings true for a high-quality marriage. The fresher you keep things in the marriage, the better your marriage will be. When I speak of freshness in the marriage, I mean, don't get into a routine in your everyday lives together. Be spontaneous, be silly, and have fun with each other. This speaks about activities both outside and inside the house. Men, believe it or not, often times just cleaning up a bit around the house can put you that much closer to an amazing night of sex. And women, wear that fire engine red teddy he likes, or be adventurous and fun in the bed together. This is a huge element of marriage and should be given the necessary spice to keep things vibrant and alive. I know that this can ring true for either gender in what I just said, but this is the typical nature of it as I have heard. Go out and have a fun dinner date, or just go for a walk at the park. Buy some flowers ever so often, and talk a lot about what is on both your minds. I don't mean complain to each other, as this typically isn't going to add any good flavor to the time your having. Remember, there are enough elements in the world that can provide you with enough bad tastes. Your marriage shouldn't be one of those.

Knowing your spices is important in preparing the meal fit for a king or queen. The same in your marriage. Learn each others "spice rack" and know the flavors that tantalize your spouses taste buds. If they love getting little notes from you, then, do this, but remember, the right amount of spice is important as well. You want it to be random and not smothering. Too much of any one spice can kill the overall flavor of a meal. If your spouse likes it when you hold their hand or run your fingers through their hair, or just tell them you love them from time to time, without being prompted for it. In other words, know what your spouse likes and make use of it. It pays off, trust me.

Time is yet another important element. If you cook a meal too short, it will be bad news, and if you cook

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