Are you a CUTTER? What is a cutter you ask?... well let me put it to you this way. Have you ever stayed with someone knowing that you don't (and probably never will) trust them? Have you ever gone through your girl/guy's phone or email only to find proof of cheating that you never mention to them? Have you told your closest friends how bad you feel in this relationship, only to stay in it with no change on the horizon? If so, then you my friend are probably a cutter! You keep yourself in a constant state of pain with very little hope of healing in sight. You deliberately hurt yourself by searching for proof of cheating... making excuses for unacceptable behavior...trying to get him/her to see the error of their ways with long drawn out conversations about feelings and promises. Your relationship consists of 'what ifs' and 'maybes' that run endlessly through your mind! At this point your heart is broken, and your brain is not your friend. Anyone who has ever been 'crazy in love' in a 'relationship gone bad' has probably exhibited some cutter tendencies.

So take heart...You are not alone! This runaway relationship ride can come to an end, but YOU have to take control.

This is about a journey. But first you have to ask yourself...Do you want to take the same ride over and over and over again? Imagine riding the scariest roller coaster ever. What if every time you thought it was ok to get off, it took off again? As a cutter, that is something that you are doing to yourself. You may think it's the other person's fault for hurting you, but really after the first incident, you are really only hurting yourself. You're on an emotional roller coaster that you won't get off of. So you stay on getting sicker by the minute. Maybe you stay out of fear of the unknown...making excuses for why you don't just get out. Think of a bad relationship like a runaway roller coaster that never stops. At first it's fun and exciting, it's full of surprises. It makes your heart beat fast and makes you feel alive! That's great for a while, but your heart and mind can not take that ride for years and years without some anxiety and eventual harm. When the person you love cheats on you, your heart drops and the wild ride of emotions begins.

In some cases (very few), it never happens again and you are able to recover. But in most cases you trick yourself, with false hope and wishful thinking, into staying on the ride. This person loves you right? So you stay even though

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