by B Borcyk

Created on: June 16, 2008   Last Updated: June 19, 2009

Parents struggle to find activities that will help their children build those important values that they themselves have been taught, often through hard work and responsibility. This is difficult today as so many restrictions are placed on parenting, even by people and organizations of people who do not have the experience of raising a child.

Martial arts is one of the greatest ways for children to learn all of the most important characteristics of positive role models, because it keeps the child's interest, and it is something the family can easily do together. It does all of this without convincing the child that he or she is required to win, no matter what the cost.

Facing reality, many extracurricular activities, such as after-school sports programs, teach children that it is acceptable to lie, cheat, and even do poorly in class. Coaches accept "passing" grades and do not always encourage students to do better, as long as the "star athletes" are available to win games.

The best martial arts for children are the ones that teach respect and discipline, encourage education, and discourage the use of violence. They also strive to build self-confidence and humility. Contrary to popular belief, most martial arts styles are meant for self defense rather than physical violence.

One example of a great school for children and families is Master Kim's Taekwondo Institute in Penfield, NY. What makes this school excellent is Master Kim's attitude toward families and the development of its young students. He teaches this through his Character Program.

The Character Program requires students to bring home assignment sheets, which they must fill out and turn in with a parent's signature in order to test for the next rank. Character stripes are added to children's belts for verified household chores, assisting others, good grades, and various positive behaviors. Report cards are shown directly to the head instructor, Mr. DeWilde. If the child receives a grade of "C" or better, he or she receives a character stripe. If not, he or she must show improvement within a designated timeframe, otherwise the student is prohibited from testing for another rank.

At testing, the child with the full fifteen character stripes on his or her belt receives a medal and a trophy for Character Champion. Multiple winners can and do happen. Children with less than fifteen stripes are still given certificates for doing an outstanding job, and they are encouraged to do better for their next rank and strive for the high honor.

Master Kim's also encourages families to attend the Family Classes. Parents learn how to teach their children and assist them with forms and other difficult curriculum. It also teaches parents how to maintain their child's interest by expressing perseverance. If students are encouraged to attend every class, eventually it will become a natural part of a child's weekly routine, and then hopefully an important part of his or her life. Although the student's main goal is to earn a black belt, Master Kim makes sure that his students are both physically and mentally ready to accept this special rank.

In choosing the appropriate martial arts style for your child, it is necessary to watch one or two classes, converse with the main instructor(s) and meet anyone else who may be conducting classes. Also, it is important to allow your child to be a part of the decision-making process. Parents should also attend, because the best martial arts style for children is also the best for their families.

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