by Lester Nixon

Created on: June 16, 2008

We should all be in touch with our emotions. Just as we know when we are hungry, need to sleep, are thirsty etc, we all, I feel, truly know when we meet our soul mate. That special person I believe god has for all of us. Each individual in this world knows what makes them happy, sad, enraged, or depressed. If we get in touch with our own spirit man or woman, we truly are able to find our soul mate! Frankly I feel there is more than one person in life that could be that special person we can spend our lifetime with.

Allowing for the expectations of others, I know can find a soulmate and it does not interfere with that discovery. Be it friends, family, co-workers, or society, others expectations and demands can and will cause trouble in any relationship if we let it. It can keep us from meeting our soulmate or cause problems or even a break up in a relationship. I feel many marriages are broken up, not over money as we are told by so called experts, but by interference from meddling, jealous, hidden agenda, in laws, co workers, co church members and friends. Just as a radio receiver can not receive a transmission because there is interference, this is also very true in regards to relationships. I have several relatives that are on a literal crusade to keep people from having a relationship or from marrying because they had a horrible relationship, marriage and messy divorce. They many have had lots of failed relationships, so it seems to me they want as many others lonely and miserable as they are!

Too much time is spent watching the television news reports about all the relationship horror stories. I sort of went through a situation where I was stalked for a short time. I quickly ended that situation with help from law enforcement friends and I did not let that horrible, disgusting chapter in my life turn me off women nor think that I wanted to just be alone forever. A relationship ended because a lady I deeply loved found that her family disapproved. That has not discouraged me either respect and like women. Yes we all have to be careful. There are many selfish and or psychotic people out there. I have decided in my spirit and mind when I hear statistics like seven out of ten marriages end in divorce, I want to be one of the three that make it!

I find there are so many women that verbally, emotionally, and spiritually burden their fellow women (mothers, sisters, friends, co workers, etc.) with long winded and sometimes lengthy stories of their no good ex-husbands or boyfriends! These are their abuse stories. I feel this often can be major discouraging aspect for relationships, even marriages, causing strife in marriages and with dating couples and I found that the lady I deeply cared for and I were fine until she sadly allowed interference in our relationship. Obviously and sadly she I feel is intimidated and controlled by many in her social circle. Sadly she and so many others allow it.

Getting and staying tuned in with our true inner selves and being open and ready to receive helps relationships to thrive. Without this tuning to inner self, when the right one comes along, they are unwilling and not ready for them! Be honest and be serious. I am and have been open to my soul mate. I am not and never have been into getting notches on my belt for every woman I meet. I am a very private person. We were raised to be this way in my family and to respect the privacy of all others. So I do not kiss and tell and I do keep what needs to be private as such. When we meet that person lets us be perceptive and attentive to them, keeping all others out of our relationship. Our soulmate is out there. Don't stop looking and be ready!

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