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In 2005, the world's population (according to Wikipedia) was almost 6,5 billion. And only one of them is meant for you. Only one of them is your soul mate. That's a bit depressing, don't you think?

Let's just start with the whole concept that there's this one person who's meant for you and who will make you happy. I know, I might be offending a lot of people now, but I really do think this concept is for those who are too lazy to care.

Assuming there's someone there waiting for you takes away responsibility for your own relationship. After all, if something isn't working out in your relationship, you can just assume it's not someone you're meant to be with. So you don't have to fight for that relationship. You face an obstacle and you just give up. Hiding behind that famous, "we just weren't meant to be."

Another reason I'm against this "soul mate" concept is what people call a "serial dater syndrome." A serial dater is someone who dates all the time and rarely settles in a relationship for longer than a few months. When asked why can't they stay in a longer relationship, they often say that they just know "there's something better waiting" for them.

It seems to me like a search for the Holy Grail. People looking for the love of their life, sure that it's just around the corner. So their current fling doesn't get enough attention as the daters are always distracted by the constant search for "greener pastures."

It's probably obvious that I don't believe in searching for Mr. Right. I don't believe in the perfect man that will act like a Prince Charming and swipe me off my feet. I also think shining armor is impractical and all the white horses are rather messy.

I do, however, have no problem with Mr. Right-Now, or any other concept that implies that you're concentrating solely on your current partner. Be it a one-night stand or a steady boyfriend of a few years. I don't believe anything you don't have to work for is worth anything.

Now let's look at the whole concept of a "soul mate" from a slightly different perspective. I often see this idea being used in vampire fiction. Where vampires mate for eternity with one person in the entire world meant just for them.

I find a lot of flaws in that idea. What if the vampire in question dies before he or she meets their soul mate? How long are they supposed to wait for that soul mate to appear? Is it one soul mate for an eternity or one soul mate every generation?

In real life I have similar questions. Is there just one soul mate in the entire world? Or are we talking one soul mate per continent depending on where one lives? Or are soul mates like Slayers (you know, the TV show, "Buffy the Vampire Slayer") and when one soul mate dies the other gets called by the Destiny?

However you look at it, the whole concept looks a bit silly and not very believable. I might not sound very romantic, but I want you to know that I am. I'm a big romantic at heart. I just refuse to think there's only one person in the entire world that can make me happy. Because with my luck that would mean this person lives in Australia. Possibly in a coma.

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