by Suzanne Fort

Created on: June 12, 2008   Last Updated: August 28, 2008

After my separation, my self-esteem went down the tube. I started dating right away. I wanted to feel like I wasn't the "fat and ugly" person he had said I was over the years. I kept the children out of it. I would only date when the children were with their grandpa or with their father. It was hard to schedule it, but it was a good idea. I had taken a course about divorce with children. It confirmed what I already believed. I had given up dating for a few years to get my self-esteem in tact before dating.

I am currently dating a man who also has children. It is difficult trying to schedule around the children. I do not think it's even possible to keep a relationship going when both people have children. Only time will tell I suppose.

Introducing your dates is never good for children. The children will form attachments with these dates. If you don't work out with your date, your child will feel the same hurt that they did when you broke up with your spouse. Children may grow up having attachment issues due to your unwise decision to let your children meet your dates.

My ex-husband never followed the advice that I had mentioned to him. He was incapable of coming to see the children without women. He could not adequately take care of the children without help. There were a few women that I have witnessed over the two years, but the children have mentioned more.

There was Rebecca. She showed up first at our divorce hearing. She stuck her tongue out to me. She would come down with him every time he came down. She would spray the children with her perfume so I would know she was there. My son was highly allergic to it. It caused rashes on his arms every time. She encouraged my ex-husband to call CPS because of the rashes, although they were caused by her. They had taken the kids one time and put a piece of poop inside a bag with the dirty underwear of my son. They waited eight hours before giving it to me. It was non-stop issues with this woman. The children said that Rebecca would yell at them when they went out. It was the evil of my ex-husband multiplied when the two of them were dating.

He left Rebecca for Amy. She seemed nice enough. The children liked her. She had been with their father when the decided to follow me for an hour after drop off. I knew she had no idea what she was getting into. I felt sorry for her. She later contacted me through Myspace and told me all the stuff that he did to and around the children. She was a victim of domestic violence by

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